How to develop a bond between my daughter and her dad?
He s alwaz scared to hold her and thus whenever she s in his lap, she starts crying and become unconfortable. Even if she s in deep sleep and I put her in her dad's arms, she wakes up instantly n starts crying.


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Very good q and i think our dude dad is best person to answer this! Kartik Kujur :)

Kartik Kujur please help.

Sirisha can u pls avoid mass tagging on ur posts? We have been requesting everyone to #tagsmartly by tagging max 3 moms who are relevant to ur query.

asha chaudhry sure I l take care of this from now on. My post a question link doesn't work, dts y I thought of tagging moms so that it doesn't get missed.
But I l tag three relevant moms from hereon.

Let the dad spend little more time with the baby ...with you beside initially n later alone ...
Just ask him to rock the baby n make funny sounds n hold the baby ...the basic thing is to get to know each other more and get acquainted ... My hubby used to rock her to sleep n talk to her even if she didn't understand things :-)
Gradually kids get acquainted ...

Ur baby is small.. will slowly get use to her dad.. let ur hubby spend more time with her... he can try to put her to sleep or bottle fees if she is taking... carry her and roam... it’s just a connection bond... kids feel comfortable with mothers as they know our smell and feel from moment they are born

With us . . It was always . . Me feeding the baby and the dad burping the baby . .

Don't worry they deleveop more bonding than mom's as daughter is more addicted to dad so not worry so much..

In my case,,,, i used to feed baby thats it.. baaki my hubby handled so well.. like massaging, bathing, burping, diaper changing.. because he loved to do.. so he does these now also..

Hi Sirisha Bhalla! Since my wife and baby stayed at my in-laws for some 6 months after the delivery and I could only visit them weekly, my wife insisted and I made sure I spent the entire time with him. Even before he was born I used to talk to the baby bump. Since my baby was a bigger baby compared to others so holding him in my arms wasn't that difficult but I can truly understand what your husband means. Holding those tiny creatures in our arms can be tricky for we husbands. I had my wife instructing the how to's all the time so that I didn't make any mistake. Of course I couldn't feed him as he was exclusively breastfed but I would rock him, talk to him and even change him. I didn't massage him when he was very little but I do now. And the time I was away I would talk to him on phone and video calls so that he knows I am his father. My wife made sure to talk about me, show him my pictures. Don't worry. The baby is his part too, she'll come to develop a deep bonding with him anyway, it's the genes.

With time it will. The baby knows ur smell and as ur husband is not; confident baby senses it. Once she becomes less fragile and will start doing lot many things they will have a bond

I clearly know what You're talking about sirisha.My hubby met samyu after 2 months.I was praying for them to bond well and thankfully it happened.Few points that helped me:
1.Talk.Talk alot her about dad.I used to tell her daily that daddy is so eager to meet u.He has bought so many toys for samyu,likewise.
2.If he's afraid to carry,let him lie down next to her.My hubby used to lie close to her and play with her,making funny expressions and sounds.
3.Make his face familiar to her.Engage him in all activities like playing,taking her for a walk in stroller,burping.
4.Try using a swaddle bed.It could be easy for your hubby to carry her with that.

Hey Sirisha ur hubby needs to b confident..for now its okay since the baby is small but he shouldnt stop trying.. i dont think the baby is crying becoz of the hold,if he cries ask ur husband to not panic to calm the baby ..be creative..😃just be with the baby wenever possible..sleep next to the baby..talk to him ..sing to him

Kartik Kujur and Ankur Agarwal Pls share some tips on how to get a better bonding between my husband and my 3month old son

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