It's raining depression in BABYCHAKRA! Every week one or other moms break down and cry what they are going through after delivery (Including me) All these moms were once excited about their delivery and holding their babies but what now?
THIS POST IS FOR ALL THE PREGNANT LADIES OUT HERE..
Giving birth to your baby is not all about packing your hospital bags, buying all beautiful clothes, going bonkers over firstcry sale, photo shoot( What a trend this has become), selecting names and nick names, updating Facebook, BabyChakra and WhatsApp "It's a Girl" or "Boy it is". Sorry I'm breaking the rosy picture of yours but let's talk about this and deal this. Don't think I'm scaring you.. All I'm trying to do is making you aware of things which is going to happen once you give birth and how you can prepare yourself for this.
BYE BYE SLEEP: Sleep as much as you can now because you are not going to get more than an hour sleep for first 40 days at least. The baby needs feed every 1 hr and you need to get up and feed, burp the baby and put the baby to sleep which will take an hour and by the time you try to close your eyes the next feeding session will start, let's not forget the diaper change in between.
Get help here, ask someone to take care of the baby when you take a nap ( we'll it will be anywhere between 5 mins to 45 mins) and sleep whenever the baby sleep. Again it's not going to make much difference because you got pee, poo, brush the teeth, take bath and eat. My mom use to wake me up and say "brush and eat your food you need to breastfeed" 😲😣 first 40 days my mom was my enemy 😂 I use to take out all my anger on her.
EXCLUSIVE BREASTFEEDING: Not so easy as you think, before making any promise to yourself that you will breast feed for 1 year 2 years hold on. You might have sore nipples, engorged breast or your baby might not latch. You may choose to give formula but again that comes with pros and cons like Colic, gas etc and cleaning and steralise of the bottles is not easy.
Deal with this.. Be prepared. In this you can't seek help as the breast is yours but you can ask someone to give burp to the baby. I use to say " Why did not God create men in such a way that they can breastfeed as well?? Why do they have those breast then? 🤣"
NON STOP CRIES : I was told by mom that babies cry only for 3 reasons.. when they are hungry, when they want to sleep, when they have some pain( mosquito bites, ant bite, stomach ache) So I was all ready to feed her when she is hungry.. Put her to sleep when she wants to sleep and look for mosquitos and ants.. WOW What an easy job I say! Babies can cry for anything, anytime, everything, every time. 3 to 6 weeks are going to be a nightmare and you might feel like breaking your own head. I once gave my wailing daughter to my mom and opened the door and went till the lift ☺️ where I was planning to go only God knew... I use to feel fatigued when she cries.
Deal with this.. read all the articles in BabyChakra and learn what's Colic, how to soothe crying baby. Seek someone help here and be patient here, you might feel like hurting or shouting at your baby(I did😔) understand that they are new to this world and they are so dependent on us.
These 3 things were major challenges for me and I cried every night, banged my head on many occasions, fought with my mom and husband, cursed myself for being such a horrible mother but there are other challenges as well you may face..
1. Accepting things really helps, I came to terms with myself and accepted the fact that Im going to get only 1 hour sleep in 24 hrs really helped me.
2. It's not about you anymore, no one is going to ask you how do you feel? Is there any pain? Did you sleep last night? It's going to be about baby now.
3. Forget all your outings, date with your husband, family time etc for first few weeks. Accept the fact that baby is important and not others things.
Lovely ladies I know this post would have made you all sick to the stomach but trust me this is just a phase.. This too shall pass. Things will get better after a month or 2.. Ask ask and ask questions here and do anything to make your baby comfortable. My daughter adapted a sleeping pattern, she does not cry unnecessarily now, I know when to feed her.. As a mother I did lot of research and asked many important as well as silly questions in BabyChakra and got lot of help. I still don't get continuous 5 hrs sleep but I get to sleep, I'm sure I will face more challenges but I know I will deal with that too.
asha chaudhry Neha Agarwal Priya Sood It will be of great help if we have a session on PPD like how we have for other things. The session should only be for PPD where pregnant and new moms can participate, Do consider this.
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