I Give up!

When my daughter turned 6 weeks old, I was so excited because I wanted to feed her with feeding bottle. I asked multiple questions regarding this in BabyChakra and got both negative and positive response, I so badly wanted to introduce bottles because 1) I was damn tired feeding day and night, I really thought it would be great if my mom or other family member can feed her and I can rest for a while. 2) I'm handling everything alone as most of you all know that my husband is staying Abroad, So taking my daughter everywhere I go was not possible and I was not comfortable feeding her in public (I'm still not). 3) Like all mothers I want my daughter to become chubby so I want her to have extra feed in the night and sleep at a stretch. I also have excess milk supply 4) I don't want her to be a fussy eater and depend on me for the food.

So I started off with mee mee bottles and it was Nah from her, bought pigeon she had once (first and last bottle feed) then started spitting out the nipple, read so many good review about Philips Avent and fell in love with the bottle shape bought one.. Again a Nah from her. I bugged many of my friends and they all gave me lot of ideas including trying cheap bottles and it was always Nah Nah Nah Nah from her.

I got frustrated, annoyed and irritated with my baby, kept pumping, trying and throwing the milk away. But whatever I do she kept pushing the bottle away, I got a pacifier so that she can get used to plastic nipples again negative response from her. When I spoke to her paediatrician about this he laughed and appreciated my daughter " Smart baby you must be huh, You know the difference" I was more irritated.🙄

It took 5 weeks for me to understand that my baby wants me.. My breast. Why did I force her when she clearly showed me she doesn't need feed from the bottle? She once waited for 4 hours without feed as I went out and smiled so happily after I returned, Hunger strike 😂 I have decided I'm not going to force her any more... It's okay if I miss few outings, It's okay if I have to feed her in public which I'm still not comfortable, It's okay to get up at least twice in the night to feed her, Today I finally GIVE UP bottle idea.

This post is just my personal experience, I appreciate people who feed BM and FM in bottles due to various reasons. Please do not feel offended.. As a mom all of us are doing great job. But do not force your baby at any cost. I received this picture in WhatsApp and it made sense to me. I'm ready to be milking cow for next few months before I start with semi solids. HAPPY BREASTFEEDING MOMMAS..

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Milking cow aye!!; Good one.

Thats woderful rebecca!! Infact, my kiddo exclusively bfed for six months and combined semi solids up to 18months.. after that she left by her own.. she didnt use any bottles or pacifiers.. i started my work after 20days of c-sec, and my kiddo followed me to hospital as well.. we just created a nursery cum rest room for her at the top of building.. it was a memorable journey for me..

Happy Breastfeeding! You LL miss these days darling Rebecca

I think this is gonna be my fav post becca! Guess what i fed ini from the breast only for 22.5 mnths! I did buy a pump. I bought bottles only when i introduced her to top milk and wanted to wean her off the breast :) i have fed ini almost everywhere (using a dupatta or covering sheet) and she wud pull it off as if telling the world, "hey my mom is my instant food maker. Chk her out!" Grrrrr it was exhausting but i kept at it relentlessly. But now when i read everyone's posts i think wow, i was so dumb! Why didnt i think of feeding her with a bottle?! So ur post reassures me that perhaps some babies just think breast is best ;)

Well Rebecca Prakash from the day 1 i made mind of giving only bm.never tried bottle..after 6mnths i tried for water as u mentioned u tried so many variety of brand but a big nah nah frm him.finally he wants it from glass🤣🤣 bacha bada ho gaya h..last nyt was horrible for me breast has become like a hard stone😔 wid terrible pain deep in ma mind i thought of giving up! But at nyt he wakes up for feed i; looked him he ws serching for boo by moving head.i fell so bad that im taking his rights to drink milk..finally tried wid cabbage on breast guess wat it really works!... i never forced him for solid food..smdy he only wnts happy to feed him..😊😊..ur doin gr8 job dear and all other mommies..😘😘happy breastfeeding

asha chaudhry most of my posts are your favourite isn't? 😍🤗☺️☺️☺️

Thats a huge compliment to u considering i hv been an editor for more than half a decade ;)

Loved this post Becca!!! I am always intrigued by all your posts. You are surely a story teller !!

Awwww Rebecca what a lovely post ... I love your brutal honesty ...; this would help a lot many moms out here... But here manna bhai given up breast feeding on her own .. she only takes one feed before sleeping ...;;; all she wants is to eat 😂😂♥️; and I am serious about it .. she loves to have cerelac , dal and her favourite fruits of all kinds ..;; I think each child is different and it's very important to understand what does a baby wants ♥️♥️♥️♥️;; like in my case manna bhai doesn't like to take bottle even she drinks it from glass now; so I am pumping and feeding her; 😑😑 Kudos for this post lots of love

; I even tried to introduce bottle to my son when he was around one month old but he never took.. later after 1-2 trial I gave up.. I exclusively breastfeed him till 6 months and continued feeding till 3 years.. I fed him everywhere - used to find baby rooms in malls or else just go in some corner and feed him..
Lovely post..

I will make my mumma EBF mumma 😁

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Oh darling!!
You give me mommyhood goals!!! Keep sharing your experiences, there something about them that i can't help but fall in love everytime i read them and appreciate. I look upto your experiences and sharing.

So so true!
Both my kids rejected the bottle, after having a couple of bottle feeds.
They only wanted it direct from source.
I was alone as well, tired n had to go to work part-time.
But everything worked out in the end as I realised that there was no way out of it!
So I built my system to keep up with it.
My younger one is still going on n on...

This is so good post dear,, agree with the every word hope i too do only bf to my baby.

I was in same boat as you, initially even I felt that I should bottle feed but I never tried i thought will try once he is 2 month but by that time,; I love breastfeeding him that smile of satisfaction he gave after feed is priceless. Now I enjoy BF time as it is our mom n son special time.

I use both bm and fm.i used to feed her
mostly at night sometimes in day also.
For; first 6 month i gave her only milk not even a drop of water,my mil used to give me taane all the tym ki; bachchi ko pyas lagi h pani nh deti.but my paediatrition told me to not give water only bm when you feel she is thirsty.

Vipra Naik exactly I don't know all of the sudden I look forward to breastfeed her. I'm enjoying that I'm able to satisfy her hunger..

Whow!!...Great Post Rebecca Prakash; Mam..!; Loved ur posts.. Keep Shining n Thank you for encouraging ol d mommies.. Aww Angel 😘 Much Love💕

Nice post on breast feeding Rebecca Prakash; . You are very honest in accepting the truth .I was thinking to introduce bottle but my pediatrician strictly said no . So I dropped the idea . Now I'm enjoying to feed him like milky cow😄😄😄😄 .

🙈🙈🙈 idea of trying cheap bottle🤐🤐🤐🤐... Earlier i was not but now m insame boat as u... Tried every possiblity to give bottle feed... And nothing is working.... The situation is like ki m irritating her by giving bottle n making her cranky... So finally i decided to GIVE UP too... As u say BREAST IS BEST n the LIQUID GOLD too💪✌️

Helpful.. n the way u intrigued..

I love this post Becca!! Sometimes no matter what we try.; . Our kids will have their own way . . Love how little dolly already has a mind of her own

Oh I could so relate with that point of not being comfortable at feeding in public.Infact even at home I prefer being alone in a room while feeding her.I prefer a calm,silent room where no one can disturb us.

I bottle fed fm to my baby for medical reasons...
but it was soo so tiring..washing bottles and sterilizing them all day..and then keeping boiled water ready in most hygenic way possible
It tuk 3 to 4 hours (morning and evening) of doing it..
and no body around at that time to take care of had to keep running between kitchen and bedroom!
Used to wash bottles when he was sleeping.
Cud nver go out..coz carrying bottles..powder..and warm water was not always posbl...n most places outside r so unhygenic to mix things...
I always wished ..i cud bf..not jus for its goodness but also its ease... some point u wud hv definetly regretted switching to bottle if u r managing all alone..
gud u gave up on bottle or fm :)

Yes Shreya Singh bottle feed is no easy, As I said as moms we all are doing great.

Hi Rebecca nice post-that's exactly my story- same reasons which u daughter also refused. I tried so many things as u did. Now I am also tired and gave up this idea of feeding her with bottle. Waiting for another 3 months so that I can start other things.

Nice Rebecca.. i tried breastfeeding and Kaira did latch nicely.. but my back pains keeping her so long.. i am feeding her through Avent bottles and Mee Mee bottles and she is on combination feeds. Hope she does well.
Happy EBF to you and undoubtedly.. Atarah is a smart kid.. lol..

I do the same when my daughter is of one month cause i m working so i dont want that she remain hungary in my absence i will join my duty after july till then i feed atleast once with bottol in 2 or 3 days so that she can take milk fron any other family member in my absence.

Good one Rebecca. I find the same problem with my 4 n half month old she one. These days he usually goes on hunger strick. Then I express my milk and give the bottle to my dad. He sings, makes faces and so many things to make my son HV milk. And believe me it works ,we just hv to distract him.

Great... Yes all mommies must used breast milk for babies... My baby wants to feed all the time when he woke up... He does not left me even for single minute. He starts crying badly n no one can calm him even me. Finally i have to feed him. And then his stomach disturb due to over eating... I'm damn worries about this.

One month k bacchae ko janam gutti deni chahiyae ya nhi agar deni chahiyae to kitni deni chahiyae

Pooja Sony Sharma nahi, you should not give all this. If you are breastfeeding it's more than enough.

Your lucky. My baby was not with me aftr birth for a week or so. Now he is 25 days old n doesn't want my breasts at all. If i force my breasts in his mouth, he keep on crying n does not close his mouth. Don't know what to do. Please suggest.

@Divya please keep trying. Watch lot of you tube videos on how to get a perfect latch. Use nursing or ordinary pillow, keep a small stool under your legs. All this will give comfortable position for your baby to latch.

Yeah trying but he cry a lot so i give him fm. Please help me with one more thing, how much fm should be given to him per feed? He is 25 days old

Divya I have no idea about formula. Please post your question separately, our experts will answer.

Very nice post Rebecca. Mine is c section. After delivery sitting and feeding him was like pain. Mine is a joined family but still had to take him day n night. I use to get tired and feel like someone should come n feed him on my behalf😋.
I wanted to bottel feed him but was not allowed so continued bf. But the smile of my ltl one after bf makes me happy even jn pain. Now have decided to bf only.🙂

Manisha Gaikwad I too had csection, great you are breastfeeding your baby exclusively. Never doubt yourself, you can also read one more article by me about breastfeeding Why I Chose To Breastfeed?

You are a lucky mom.
Cheers to motherhood .....

Hello!! I am 21 day old mum.... my daughter is both breast feeding as well as taking top feed too...but the problem that we are facing is she is suffering from extreme stomach ache....she infact didn't potty for 2 days..... consulted the doctor n was given a medicine but that is only giving her relief for few hours and the pain is back...could you all please help me with this..wat shud I do so that it soothes her..

Hi jayita biswas baby is just 21 days and it's recommended breastfeed exclusively for 6 months. Stop the top feed and breastfeed her exclusively, you will see the difference for yourself.

Intelligent and sensitive Atarah!

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