Heya Mommas and would be Mommas ,

Hope you know that i love you all and Bbc

Sorry for not being active

My Naani Maa is on ventilator in Icu and counting her days .also i have to be support for my mom and Kiwi .. look after everything and then dedicate time for my venture .. so i thought i will get in touch with all of you after everything is sorted .

But today i couldnt hold back myself .. there was; a question and few of answers in the group which highly disturbed me and i had to vent out ..

It was about Formula feeding and Breast feeding .. there were women who commented that formula is bare minimum..

Women questioning womEn for choosing FORMULA and JUDGING them .. a woman defaming MOTHERHOOD by passing on a comment on other mother .. A mother telling People that breastfeeding is tough ..bit comes with bachache nd all , and motherhood is a big responsibility .. SO BECOME A MOM ONLY IF YOU CAN DO IT .


Mannat is on a Combination feeding since the first month ..

Here we go there will be people raising there brows and would start lecturing me BREAST IS BEST ..

There will be Moms who would think i am lazy , i am not ready to take responsibilities , i am looking for comfort; .

Moms who would think i didnt try enough for EBF ...;;

There would be moms who would no matter what you will say will always Say FORMULA IS BARE MINIMUM and BREAST IS BEST

I respect your opinion; and would always support you guys and you will All have my respect for EBF;

I know; BREAST IS BEST; ...

And i always support and encourage new mommas to Breastfeed ..Dont give up it tought but not impossible ..

But but but

This is a message to all the people who; MOMMY SHAME

♥️Here are few things you guys need to know ...; there are thousands of mom living with guilt for not been able to feed breast milk ..; DEPRESSION AND POST PARTUM DEPRESSION IS REAL ...WAKE UP PEOPLE

♥️there are thousands of moms like me who tried every thing to increase; breast milk but nothing happened; ...;;; so what should we do Starve the baby ??

♥️There are moms who are facing medical issues and unavle to feed baby

♥️There are moms who weren't able to feed because baby was oremature baby wont suckle and what not ..

♥️there are moms - lets take example of moms who have financial issues and need to support their family .. they arent able to Ebf ..; do you think they love their baby any lesser ??;

A working mom spending 8 hours at work and then caring for family and baby .. isnt she doing great ??

I have cried in Guilt for initial months for not been Able to EBF...

But Not; anymore..

Because i know; i am doing the best i can for my Baby ..

Can someone explain me why formula is bare minimum ?? For mothers who aren't able to feed babies because of low supply , medical reasons or any other .. should they consider that they are giving the babies the bare minimum ??;;; And not the best alternative available ?;;

Shouldn't; we all support all mothers who are doing their best for the babies ..; lets respect motherhood and help mommas who are into GUILT , DEPRESSIONjust because they cant ebf

Motherhood comes with responsibility but BREASTFEEDING ISN'T THE ONLY ONE , THERE IS A LOT MORE TO IT


♥️♥️Please let the individual decide and make decisions for baby..;;;; its everyones personal choice AND NOBODY HAS THE RIGHTS TO PASS SUCH DEMEANING COMMENT ABOUT A MOMMA .


you have no right to judge a MOMMA


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All the views expressed is my own and i take up the responsibility...
I am in no way encouraging to formula feed niether demeaning it ..
Breast is best; but let the mom decide it .

You slam em!! 💞

Hats off to you mam

nancy singh (@the_foodswingss) I don’t mean to divert the topic, but the baby’s dress is super cute 😘 where do you get these from?

Hi nancy pls feel free to tag me on posts/questions whr u see people judging one another. We have a zero tolerance policy for people who shame others or offend others or attack people personally.

asha chaudhry; heya di,
I love BBC ... sorry for my typo error its in a group nd not here .. i know you guys wont tolerate this at all ...
And i expect this from atleast this community ..
But yes i am totally in shock and very upset about how a woman defames another woman Sonam patel; our braveheart mom is the best example for such haters ...; An inspirational mom whose love and efforts for Nishu is commendable and i can not even imagine how she does it ... still she couldnt exclusively; breastfeed ..; So does that mean she wasnt responsible ...;; sorry for venting out .. i am really upset today ☹☹

Hey darling vent as much as u want. Phew! I thought something happened here or in a chat gp. Hugs re. I hv had educated people judging me for breastfeeding my baby for; nearly 2 yrs!!!! Moral of the story - people are gonna shame u for some reason or the other. I used to hear 2-3 women whispering, "asha shud really get back to work..." And these are women who got their moms to babysit their babies. My mom lives in gujarat while i live in goa!!! So i told them aap log aanewale ho mere ghar par aarini ko dekhne?? They dont mess with me anymore.

You nailed it Nancy...!!; It was so needed....; I personally don't ha e issues with Judgemental freaks but when a mom judges another mom for the choices she makes for her own child, it breaks my heart... Let the people be what they want but at least we, as a fraternity can support and should support each other.... Every mom is a doing her best for her kid.. whether it's breastfeeding, bottle-feeding, SAHM, WM, WFHM, literate, illiterate, whatever it is ...let her make her own choices and make the best out of whatever she has... 🙏

Seriously!! This is the least the can be expected. Mommies not shaming each other. Come on! Which era e u in.. amazing post nancy

Awesome post nancy...i have been personally going through these issues since 1st day of my babys birth...i cried a lot for a couple of weeks but my husband became a constant support for me throughout and made me come out of this guilt..Thank u for writing this post...personally it feels that u have written all my feels great to read such posts

Hey Nancy... Ur doing ur best... Just try to ignore..!!

Hey nancy, hugs to you, hope that helps calm you... Like asha said, people are gonna judge you anyways, people used to ask me why don't you formula feed, thats why baby is thin... Or why dont you use a swing because thats why baby does not sleep, blah blah.... Every mom does her best to raise her child in the best possible way. You can vent, rebel and protest... But dont harbour any negative thoughts inside you.... Be the sweet girl you are, you are all that matters 😘

Adhi is also mix feed from day one I know I did every thing but my bm was not sufficient for him I felt so bad when I formula feed him like I am doing a crime. No body said anything to me but but my in-laws were like he is crying why don't you give him formula it feels so bad it was like pressure on me as If I am starving my. No matter what was the reason behind his crying they were always like feed him bottle he is hungry even sometime 45 minutes of feed they give him top feed. It felt so bad after 8- 9 months all this pressure broke me and I have to shift him completely to formula coz that pressure was effecting my milk supply and it does effect but after that incident I have learnt lesson I will not let ppl affect my decisions anymore.

👏👏👏👏 awesome

Pihu is combination fed baby and it does not make me feel ashamed! My baby needs to grow and her hunger needs to be satisfied... I don't feel bad that she is not ebf baby... What is important is that she is fed well and given right milk be it bm or fm!!!
Kudos to you too nancy

Ohhhh I so feel it... Hats off 👏👏.. I also dint have enough milk in initial days and my baby was loosing weight, my mother in law use to tell all her relatives this as if it's my fault.. I didn't take anything on my mind and started formula along with breastfeed.. as a mother it's our responsibility to do what's best for our babies and let everyone say whatever they want to.. for all the new mom's out there just do what you feel is good for your baby and let people judge you all they want...
Nancy lots of hugs to you.

And sending healing prayers to your nanima!

asha chaudhry di. Same thing i m getting from my inlaws. U should now start working. My sil, u should wean baby off by now nd all bla bla. I also askd my inlaws aap log yahan reh sakte ho to take care for navya. Then they were speechless 😶. Jab woh log help ke liye he ready nhn hai to kyun bhashan jhadte hai. I dnt know

My elder one also feed by both method,thoda rest mumma ko bh chahiye.
Bs baby ki tummy full toh mumma khush.thankfully my mil and hubby support me(waise beech beech main abh bh tane maar deti h sasu ma)but koi nh uss tym support kiya bht h.

hey nancy - how is ur nanima feeling now? our best to her

nancy singh (@the_foodswingss) speedy recovery to your naani. Wonderful post. That's what I believe and tell fellow moms that no one else but u know what's best for the kid. U will not go wrong. Let people say what they want don't get affected. #Momknowsthebest

Such a super duper post this is. Feeding your baby formula or ebf is completely an individual choice... And sometimes situation too gets worse. Inspite of having leaking breasts I had to feed formula due to so many reasons. I am not guilty about it and no one else has to right to say anything. Its your child and it's your decision. Being a mom if you are judging other mom that means you lack somewhere or you carry extreme pride within yourself which will effect you in future.
Thanks for this venting post.

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