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Why I never co-sleep with my baby...
Co-sleeping is one of the most common things in India. From our mother to grannies all co-slept with their babies and also there are lots of benefits but for me sleeping with my baby in my own bed wasn't a great idea.
As my delivery date was nearby, we ordered a crib (Baby cot), both my mother and my mother in law was furious as they didn't like the idea of making the baby sleep in different bed. My mother said “Tujhe mein na jara bhi mamta nahi hai” I don't have that maternal Instinct. We still went ahead with our decision.
I am a little selfish because I always believed in one thing “If I am not happy, I can’t keep anyone happy”.
Lots of my relatives, friends judged me due to this decision and told me lot of stuff.
Like your milk quantity will get decrease, your baby will not be emotionally attached to you and bla bla but nothing happened all went good for me and I exclusively breastfed him for first six months and till now, he never had outside milk and he is super happy, healthy baby and yes, he loves me.
Why we took this decision and how it worked for us??
When we were shopping for baby arrival, the first thing came to my mind that baby will sleep between us, wasn’t comfortable with that idea. Already for nine months, I haven’t had proper sleep, also we were not active in bed.
We kept the crib in my room itself, just a near my bed (so, that I can keep a eye on my baby).
First reason was comfort, post-delivery I wanted to sleep comfortably without worrying that I will suffocate my child or hurt him while sleeping, also I knew my husband will be uncomfortable too as he will always fear the same.
Second and most important, wanted to cuddle and sleep with my husband, because once the baby got habit to sleep between us it will be difficult later on, also it kept our sex life active and that makes me less frustrated as mommy. Someone said it rightly “sex is therapy”. For me as a person, physical intimacy and romance is important in marriage just because now I am a mom, should not stop me from being a wife.
Third thing, I was not very sure about feeding while lying down as I can suffocate him (Thanks to my big breast), so as it is, I always get up and feed, so it wasn't big deal. It was a pain initially but it helped us as my son never asked for comfort feeding or needs to feed till, he sleeps (No sore nipples) So, that was again a plus.
Also, usually after feed, my hubby used to rock him to sleep, this helped me to steal that extra sleep and now as on solid food he doesn’t ask for much dream feed. so, it was a win win situation for us.
I am happy that I went with my instinct and it worked really well for us. As a mother, I feel there are no traditional way to raise a baby that is compulsory to follow, do what you feel right and comfortable.
Let me know your thoughts on co-sleeping???
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Why I never co-sleep with my baby...
Co-sleeping is one of the most common things in India. From our mother to grannies all co-slept with their babies and also there are lots of benefits but for me sleeping with my baby in my own bed wasn't a great idea.
As my delivery date was nearby, we ordered a crib (Baby cot), both my mother and my mother in law was furious as they didn't like the idea of making the baby sleep in different bed. My mother said “Tujhe mein na jara bhi mamta nahi hai” I don't have that maternal Instinct. We still went ahead with our decision.
I am a little selfish because I always believed in one thing “If I am not happy, I can’t keep anyone happy”.
Lots of my relatives, friends judged me due to this decision and told me lot of stuff.
Like your milk quantity will get decrease, your baby will not be emotionally attached to you and bla bla but nothing happened all went good for me and I exclusively breastfed him for first six months and till now, he never had outside milk and he is super happy, healthy baby and yes, he loves me.
Why we took this decision and how it worked for us??
When we were shopping for baby arrival, the first thing came to my mind that baby will sleep between us, wasn’t comfortable with that idea. Already for nine months, I haven’t had proper sleep, also we were not active in bed.
We kept the crib in my room itself, just a near my bed (so, that I can keep a eye on my baby).
First reason was comfort, post-delivery I wanted to sleep comfortably without worrying that I will suffocate my child or hurt him while sleeping, also I knew my husband will be uncomfortable too as he will always fear the same.
Second and most important, wanted to cuddle and sleep with my husband, because once the baby got habit to sleep between us it will be difficult later on, also it kept our sex life active and that makes me less frustrated as mommy. Someone said it rightly “sex is therapy”. For me as a person, physical intimacy and romance is important in marriage just because now I am a mom, should not stop me from being a wife.
Third thing, I was not very sure about feeding while lying down as I can suffocate him (Thanks to my big breast), so as it is, I always get up and feed, so it wasn't big deal. It was a pain initially but it helped us as my son never asked for comfort feeding or needs to feed till, he sleeps (No sore nipples) So, that was again a plus.
Also, usually after feed, my hubby used to rock him to sleep, this helped me to steal that extra sleep and now as on solid food he doesn’t ask for much dream feed. so, it was a win win situation for us.
I am happy that I went with my instinct and it worked really well for us. As a mother, I feel there are no traditional way to raise a baby that is compulsory to follow, do what you feel right and comfortable.
Let me know your thoughts on co-sleeping???
Please follow #notsoperfectmummy for more stories and post on mommy-life.
#navimumbaimom #relationship #co -sleeping #parenting
I co sleep and i feel happy sleeping beside him.. Waise b he cant sleep without me😁.
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Hehe...my boy co sleeps...but I too wanna get him to sleep separately
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Same pinch :-)
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08 Aug 2019