How should I deal with my father-in-law's excessive interference and domination over my personal life and marriage if my husband supports him instead of me
A husband should stand next to his wife, not next to his parents. He is disloyal to you. Try explaining that to him.
Honey, you married the wrong man, who is not interested in letting his wife have a life of her own. He was apparently looking for an old-fashioned woman who would be as he wanted her to be. He is not happy with you. And he wants you to change to make him happy. And the only way to make him happy is to become the old-fashioned woman he wants you to be.
You have three options:
stay and become his old-fashioned wife;
stay, don't become his old-fashioned wife and prepare for a life of misery;
leave and start a fresh life where you can be you and maybe end up with a man who appreciates you for who you are, not for what he can make you.
You are the only one who can make the choice, based on what's feasible for you in your culture and with the people around you. If your parents would support you leaving him, if your friends would support you, then I'd suggest the third option, because it doesn't sound like you are willing to change the way he wants you to change. And since I believe nobody should be anything than themselves, I don't think you should HAVE to change, not even when it is considered normal in your culture. Cultures can only change when brave people do the brave thing of breaking with traditions and do it differently. Be good for yourself, be brave.
A husband should stand next to his wife, not next to his parents. He is disloyal to you. Try explaining that to him.
Honey, you married the wrong man, who is not interested in letting his wife have a life of her own. He was apparently looking for an old-fashioned woman who would be as he wanted her to be. He is not happy with you. And he wants you to change to make him happy. And the only way to make him happy is to become the old-fashioned woman he wants you to be.
You have three options:
stay and become his old-fashioned wife;
stay, don't become his old-fashioned wife and prepare for a life of misery;
leave and start a fresh life where you can be you and maybe end up with a man who appreciates you for who you are, not for what he can make you.
You are the only one who can make the choice, based on what's feasible for you in your culture and with the people around you. If your parents would support you leaving him, if your friends would support you, then I'd suggest the third option, because it doesn't sound like you are willing to change the way he wants you to change. And since I believe nobody should be anything than themselves, I don't think you should HAVE to change, not even when it is considered normal in your culture. Cultures can only change when brave people do the brave thing of breaking with traditions and do it differently. Be good for yourself, be brave.
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” this is what the Bible says and this doesn't mean or day ditch your parents. I'm never for joint family system. My husband before getting married itself said he wants nuclear family and my in laws also insisted that we live separately.
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03 May 2019