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I happened to bump into my ex few weeks back. It was a very  serious relationship but things didn't work out and we broke up.. I was in zero communication post 1 year of  the breakup I married and then a week back  I saw him after 4 whole years. We were very happy to see each other and exchanged greetings. Then around midnight he msgd saying this "Wish I could hug you for a little longer when I met you it's been years that I've held you just saying as someone who cares a lot for you" I am currently pregnant and I feel so guilty for being carried away at that msg by my ex. I have a wonderful husband and that makes me feel worse about not being able to stop thinking about my ex especially at this stage. What do you think that msg could mean?
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Rizwana MK

just remember there is no place for extra hero heroin in ur movie life. u r heroin and u hav a fab hero then why to entertain somone outsider.... it wil b cause of pain and is total vain

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Hi Anon, Here is what BabyChakra expert, Sheena Kalia, Psychologist has to advise. Dear Mom to be, Bumping into an ex can bring back old memories. You mentioned you were in a serious relationship however things didn't work out and you both decided to end it 4 years ago. You got married to a wonderful man and are now pregnant which is one of the most amazing journeys a couple embarks upon together. Taking charge of your thoughts here is what will help you manage the situation with ease. It's advisable to not engage in conversation with your ex as this may open up old wounds especially at a time like this where you are pregnant may not be the best time.If you were single, there's no harm but once married, staying in touch with an ex could have it's own implications for you and your family. The message only means something if you attach meaning to it. Try setting boundaries. An inappropriate msg sent at midnight from an ex does not require an immediate response. Overthinking may create a problem. Think about your motives for wanting to maintain contact. If there are unresolved feelings from your past relationship, I'd recommend therapy to work through those feelings. There's a saying , " When the past knocks, don't answer it. It has nothing new to say! " Focus your energy on building the now :-)

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Arpita goswami

plz dnt feel guilty, we are humans and if ur x is ur 1st love, then its impossible to forget him, u loved him earlier thats y ths feelngs came at ths stage,&nbsp; arrey we remembered strangers,&nbsp; thn why is there wrong in remembering the one u loved??? <br> bt plz stop meeting him and avoid his messages, block him, otherwise u will b in more pain, spend more time with your husband,&nbsp; do something nice for him,&nbsp; u will feel happy.&nbsp;

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Hey Anon, We are humans so don't feel guilty and beat yourself up for it. If you had a cordial love relationship with the person and if you bump into him, it is but natural for you to reminisce old days. However, you guys decided to move on for a reason and you are in a relationship now. It's best to not stay in touch as it leads to complicated situations. It is for you to be clear what you want out of it. It is best to let him know that you are happy and wish all the best for him and would not like to stay in touch anymore. Do let him know it was pleasant to see him and keep it at that. Best will be to block him off and best to delete his number so that you don't feel the urge to get back in touch. That message might mean various things. It is best not to think and ponder over it or even ask him what it means. It will get into a loop. So stay away from it and STOP thinking about it! :) But DO NOT feel guilty about anything. It is normal but it is also important to keep a check if you don't want to pursue it any further. Hugs and you will be fine.

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