I left my 6 months old job before getting married. My said he prefers a housewife. So became a housewife. For the 1st year I was fine being full time housewife but from 2nd year of our marriage I started feeling that I have lost my identity for my husband too. I'm nothing. He used to ask that what I did today after he reaches home from office. That's a very strange question for a housewife. What different do we have to do eveyday at home?? Then y this question?; Then I realized that I must earn nd do a proper job to see respect in other's eyes for me. I prepared for some exams and appeared in few exams but hubby never helped me in any way. And when I don't try for any job and sit ideal he never says anything to me like y don't I try do some job or anything. But when I tell hi that I'm trying to get into this field or that field he starts judging me saying things like "y u always think about small jobs(govt clearks etc), y dont u try to realize urself spritually" and blab blah blah. I wonder jitni shiddat se wo mujhe is wakt smjhate h jb main koi job krne ki baat krti hu utni shiddat se wo tb q nhi kuch b kehte jb main kuch nhi kr rhi hoti? I mean why he don't want me to do any job? Yesterday when i said ok then I'll pursue phd then he said u cant do phd. He says y dont u try for IAS PCS? I told him now I'm a mother I don't get that much time neither i have that level of energy nd I've other responsibilities i dont think i wud b able to make IN TIME. For govt job I've only 4 years left. So let me try which I'm sure about cracking in time. After that if I'll not b successful then I'll other things. But he is not happy nd continuously trying to my brain wash as he always do but now I've become aware of his habbit of doing this with me...so I'm not telling him that what i think abt him regarding thus but I'm not agreeing with him nd preparing for n upcoming exam next year.

Can u tell me what's in his mind? I tried telling him that sprituallity etc comes after completing our basic necessities nd I'm fed up saying to people that I'm a housewife bcoz u prefer a housewife. I dont want to lie to myself anymore. If he wants a housewife he better have married a girl who is not highly educated. Nd should have respect for housewife. But he treats me like a "good for nothing" being. Which I'm ofcourse not happy with.