He cecelia, it seems u have a lot on ur platter, remove some dishes from out first... Also I feel we as parents at times expect a lot from our little ones... My girl is 4 and I too have had similar situations... Specially when I have a one year old to take care of too... At this age just focus on enjoying this phase with ur girl, coz this time won't come back in life...do some fun activities together, go for drives, lunches, put on some music and dance like crazy with her... It's d best time to bond with ur child... Forget about the race that we are all in, coz in d end the one who has more fun in life Is the only one who wins... Take some me time too... Do things that u like.. If u like reading, grab a book n go to a coffee shop n just grab a coffee and read... Or go on a date with ur husband :D

I try to control my anger on basis of one thought which I read somewhere I hope this will also help you to understand your little angel feelings when you get angry with her.......Think you are in different planet...all people are multiple time larger than you. you do not understand their language, instruction and things around you...there is one person who helps you to understand the things and takes care and thats your mother. now one day when you all were having dinner at some noisy place(hotel) you found some thing shining(pot) at middle of table..out of natural curiosity you tried to hold it..the shiny thing broke down ..suddenly the person who was helping you started shouting and slaped you ...now you are helpless and could not understand what happened...

the only way to be calm is to train yourself. stop yourself when you are reacting in anger. somewhere you do know that your anger is not justified and your child is doing what a child her age does anyway. use distract for yourself. tell yourself that if she is spilling or ruining something, some part of it is already ruined and you have to clean it anyway, so let her finish it. the feature of calm does not come from a magic wand, it is a practice you have to do. self talk and Introspection helps. :-)

i feel.... you must remove some tasks from your multi tasking schedule...slow down... get less tired

dear.. remember our talks in car.. you had said "we are so stressed out.. that we remove our frustration on our kids" i tried my level best to be calm.. but keep losing my control.. dnt know what to do:-(