#mommytakeover
Post 4
Nirma over and I and Gaurav had moved our separate ways. He had started working in Bomaby with a Bank, and I in Baroda, with a market reaseach firm....he had left with tears in his eyes, still expecting a yes from me...I too had tears which I didn't let him see... I wanted to say a yes, when we were separating, but wanted it to be a final one which no one could change ever..
My family was happy with me and my two elder cousin sisters were married by then...ab Mera number thaaa and as expected proposals had started to come in... I was not pressurized as my career had just started but a general sense was ki..now when and with whom out of these people, do you want to get settled?..
Meanwhile I was missing Gaurav a lot and now knew for sure that it is love only and he is the one with whom I wanna spend the rest of my life..he was super elated when I broke the news to him on phone and super nervous the very next moment as now it was time for the blast...we both knew that breaking this news to my family will not be a bit easy and a toofan was going to come!!.. I had told him that my family was loving and caring but was a bit Orthodox too..
As expected tempers flared up when I told my parents about my choice...for days no one was talking to me properly and I had to listen to many things which were hurtful, but even after all this, I was not ready to budge.. I knew that they were not wrong as every parent will want their daughter or son to get settled in a set up which is at least equalent to theirs and where struggle is less but I told them that agar kismat me hoga to waha bhi Sab aa jaaega!! ...it was as if I had betrayed them and let them down... long story cut short, my grandma again came to my rescue...she asked me about this guy and I showed her his picture..she thought for a while and then convinced my parents into meeting Gauravs parents..
Meanwhile, I had also got a good opportunity in Mumbai, and so had shifted there with my bestie from Nirma who was well aware about Gaurav, me and our situation...she was from Bhilai and knew Gaurav from his engineering days!!..
The meeting went well and though my parents were not very happy with the alliance and moresoover the way, my MIL was keeping demands in name of rituals in front of them but, they agreed. They had started liking Gaurav... we got engaged in a ceremony full of friends and relatives and our marriage was fixed...we had 8 months of time as courtship period.. I thought it would be a good and memorable one but was mistaken!!
Courtship was the time when our love should have grown and blossomed, but thanks to my would be MIL, she destroyed it completely...there was too much happening on dowry front and I and my family had started feeling uncomfortable..we could give more than what she had asked for, but we we're principally against this practice... I and Gaurav (till then he was in his shravan Kumar mode and his mom was Devi for him).. we're arguing most of the time and there was a time when I wanted to even end everything..
My MIl was just concerned about how to extract maximum from my family and never even cared to call me in these 8 months once, to ask my well being..as for marriage preparations.. from my side my parents were doing everything, but from their side, apart from one saree, it was Gaurav who had taken a loan, and was managing even small things like clothes, jwellery and even things like a purse and sandal for me to be given in a shagun ceremony..even then my MIL was asking him to buy jwellery and clothes for herself, my FIL and BIL and Gaurav did fulfill his mother's every wish..
Every moment I was feeling uncomfortable, with things but kahte hai na.."jodia aasman se bankar aati hai"...so we got married.. in everything that was going not so well, I noticed one thing that my parents had started liking Gaurav very much and now were happy with my being married to him...
After marriage we both were to settle in Baroda, as Gaurav had been transferred there. We went for a honeymoon to first Vaishno Devi, where Gaurav went bare foot as he had kept a mannat that if we get married he will go like that..this gesture of his had moved me then and even moves me today, when I think about it....we later went to Golden Temple, for darshan and then to Shimla..it was fun..a new life full of struggles was awaiting us!!..
So dear friends was your marriage full of filmy drama like mine, or a good one like it is usually?..
Coming up next, you will meet my in laws and my cooking story!!