When a second child comes into your life, it can be very challenging, specially when they have very little gap.. This is what I do, and it works well with us... Encourage and appreciate ur elder one often.. Make sure u applaud everytime he does something good... Make him be a part of anything that u doing for the little one... Make him help u in feeding him, ask him to pass u a diaper or some toy.. And encourage them to play together... Ur elder child needs to feel important... Even when we add parents do our best to give equal attention to both, the elder ones usually have this sibling rivalry deep down inside.. This is the right time you can transform him and keep being in love with the little one... Also one more thing that I had to change in my life... We ensure that both are sleeping with us... One sleeps next to me n one next to my husband, and we keep switching sides often...

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there's a difference here... you don't ignore him but he may still feel ignored. take note of those moments. Mumma only scholes me, Mumma only bathes him, Mumma only hold him close, I'm far away when sleeping... take note of these instances. he is in an innocent age and encourage him to talk to you about his insecurities and then work on correcting his thoughts and why Mumma does what she does :-)

thanks prisha, I use to do same I mean when I make little one sleep he also come with me to sleep n we three sleep at a time..I never ignore him due to little one..

thanks archana... but I don't like to shout o n elder one.. some time I beat him also due to all this n I feel very guilty after that..