My 4 year baby has become very stubborn and she always wants candies and chocolates and she cries a lot everytime I don't give her. It happens more than 10 times a day.
What should I do?
Hussain Cementwala
01 Apr 2017
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Preetjyot Kaur
Hi <b><font color ="#3b5998"> @6372d0c59d0e1b00168a6651 </font></b>... This is something that all toddler moms face at some time or the other... <br>
The key to this is to never give up to them when they cry.. Coz that gives a message to d kids that they can get their way out when they cry... <br>
OK now this might be really tough at a mother, but remember never ever to give in in such a case... <br>
A few things that you can do:<br>
Let the child know that mumma won't listen of you cry.. <br>
Try to divert her mind.. <br>
If that's not possible,  just move out of the room,  and tell her that you are ready to discuss when she would stop crying. <br>
This can be maddening coz I remember once my girl ended up crying for over half an hour... But I didn't give up... <br>
It can take u days to sort this... But don't loose hope... IGNORE ur girl and grab a book or do something that should make her realise that crying isn't helping her... <br>
Gradually u can begin rewarding her... D day u realise she hasn't cried at all for goodies,  u may give her one on ur own... This would make her realise that it's not actually crying,  but being happy that gets u rewards... But then again be careful and don't form this a habit... <br>
Hope this helps u... <br>
We all have been there done that... Hugs to u momma... <br>
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01 Apr 2017
Sheena Kalia
Dear Hussain, Temper tantrums need to be handled tactfully. They are a normal part of growing up. An emotional outburst or meltdown in that age group is very common. It takes time but consistency helps.You need to check on these contributing factors 1) Stress - Reduce the amount of stress in the environment ,check on Hunger levels, overstimulation and tiredness. 2)Check on how your child is feeling. If you see a tantrum is building try and distract your child with another activity. 3)Check on your own feelings too. I can understand how tough it is to stay calm while a child is throwing a tantrum but pretend if u have to but stay calm. Your child can sense your anxiety 4)Check on Tantrum triggers and try and identify these triggers if need be keep a notebook and note it down. What happens just before and after a tantrum. This will help you identify the trigger. 5)As tough as it is you need to wait out a tantrum or else your child learns how and when to involve you and get your attention. 6)Do not give your child that specific thing they want so strictly No pay offs. This way you are not giving in to their demands. 7)Give Praise and encouragement when appropriate. Acknowledge how well they handled their frustration. 8)Offer choices where possible and give logical consequences. 9)Reward your child for good behaviour 10)Please don't judge your parenting skills over a tantrum.Rather focus on how to stay focussed and respond appropriately.
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01 Apr 2017
Sheena Kalia
Dear Hussain, Temper tantrums need to be handled tactfully. They are a normal part of growing up. An emotional outburst or meltdown in that age group is very common. It takes time but consistency helps.You need to check on these contributing factors 1) Stress - Reduce the amount of stress in the environment ,check on Hunger levels, overstimulation and tiredness. 2)Check on how your child is feeling. If you see a tantrum is building try and distract your child with another activity. 3)Check on your own feelings too. I can understand how tough it is to stay calm while a child is throwing a tantrum but pretend if u have to but stay calm. Your child can sense your anxiety 4)Check on Tantrum triggers and try and identify these triggers if need be keep a notebook and note it down. What happens just before and after a tantrum. This will help you identify the trigger. 5)As tough as it is you need to wait out a tantrum or else your child learns how and when to involve you and get your attention. 6)Do not give your child that specific thing they want so strictly No pay offs. This way you are not giving in to their demands. 7)Give Praise and encouragement when appropriate. Acknowledge how well they handled their frustration. 8)Offer choices where possible and give logical consequences. 9)Reward your child for good behaviour 10)Please don't judge your parenting skills over a tantrum.Rather focus on how to stay focussed and respond appropriately.
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01 Apr 2017
Sonika Singh
hello... Hussain..same thing my daughter was doing ...she cry in shop ..I want chocolate.....I leave her there I said no..I do not have money...I can not buy .. .she came along with me but crying​. on way...when I came home I said everybody saw you crying​..now they will laugh on you ...have you saw any one crying.....let her cry never give...say only once in week I will give you ...wait for <u>Sunday</u>....if you will cry ..then I will not give you on Sunday also...tell her stories..baby who do not listen parents god punished them
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01 Apr 2017
BabyChakra
<font color ="#3b5998"><b><u> @616d55dd5988200013dc3ea9 </u></b></font> do give u r expert advise
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