Hey Swati, You know one reason your elder child isn't listening to u is may be coz of u obviously giving more attention to ur one year old, which is quite right coz such a small baby would definitely need more attention... What u can do is try to ask for her help whenever u r doing something for ur younger one or for any other usual work... It's important for her to feel important... She should feel how you can't do without her... How u and the little one needs her so badly... Try to do various activities together, the three of u... Also u may also choose to give her the little one's responsibility, may be when u go to the washroom... This would make her more responsible n would feel wanted... Have group hug times.. Trust me it works wonders... Hug kiss and hug... If possible plz seek help from someone, may b a family member or a frnd... U too need a break girl, and thats the only way u wud enjoy ur mommyhood...

so so agree with all of it. much thanks much love

I can so relate to this. I think its really important for moms do daily or as much as possible to take a break and enjoy one thing without kids

very soon the friendship between Ur daughter and you will die of she continues to see your 'mad side'. it is only natural to get angry and lose your calm. plz seek help with your work and management. that is the only way. be it maids or anyone. encourage your 8 year old to be able to help you with certain chores. parents of the previous generation did not shy away from making their children work because not only did it make life easy, but it also kept the child busy. keep her busy, and you get some help through friends or even a maid of need be. plz don't be so hard on yourself. much love to you :-)

absolutely normal.... but you dont have to take it all alone... make her your confidante... make her your alley... make her independent.... ask for her help where you think she can offer