Real Heart Wrenching story - My mother survived her awful in-laws!

We often hear about heartbreaking stories of how our mothers and sisters are dealing with their in-laws each day. This story is where I was there but still not there, my mother who survived her disrespectful, humiliating, aggressive and ruthless in-laws aka my grandparent’s torture. It is certain that it changed her as a person and made her a stronger one. But the question arises does she or any woman deserve to be treated that way?
My mother is a first daughter-in-law of my grandma’s big joint family that had 35 members in all and responsibility of doing everything was on my mom’s shoulders. After my parents got married, my dad soon left for his job in abroad within a month. That’s when my mom was left alone, imagine a newlywed woman living without her husband. She is a well-educated woman and did a job before marriage as a laboratory technician in the science department. But wasn’t allowed to do a job after marriage, her dreams came crashing down yet she remained silent. Rather she had to cook for 35 people daily, dishes and laundry because her in-laws removed maid as they believed my mom can be an unpaid maid!

A year went by and my dad came for a visit to India on a holiday from his job. Everything seemed blurry by now for her, it was a time when they had no smartphones, calling and messaging were not a thing. She almost forgot how my dad looks like because she didn’t even have a single picture of him. She was excited, overwhelmed and all emotions were rushing through her blushing face. Moreover, she had to share so many things that happened to her in a year of time but she hesitated and in a blink of an eye my dad’s holiday time ended and he went away.

The good news came in, she was expecting a baby..her hope of happiness. But nothing was going smooth with her health as she couldn’t get to rest, eat nutritious food nor regular checkups. What would have happened other than a miscarriage? Yes, she lost a ray of hope, her baby. She had this severe 3 months miscarriage and I remember her telling even after a miscarriage she had to work hard and do chores at home without any rest. My father came after a year again and stayed for two months. They started becoming close and were talking over letters but she didn’t mention of emotional and mental trauma she was in.
Until the fifth year of her marriage, she had three severe miscarriages and my grandmother tagged her as ‘ill woman’, never took her to hospital visits, never gave her exceptional nutritious food for pregnancy. After five years, my mom was pregnant again and she had a stable pregnancy, gave birth to my eldest sister. Her life became beautiful with colours of hope, years passed by...my dad came and took my mom along with him after years of trying for a family visa. She actually started living with dad after ten long years.

Furthermore, there were several such instances where my mom was mentally tortured, made to work round the clock, tagged as an ill woman and what not! She has now raised three beautiful, intelligent and wonderful daughters. She taught us to be strong and never give up in life. Also, she keeps telling us never to keep mum while someone hurts you because she didn’t have my dad with her to support her through those ups and downs of initial years of their marriage.

Her story shakes me from within every single time she talks about her in-laws. Yet she survived because she loved us and my dad the most! But, why couldn’t she stand for herself is my question to her and every woman who goes through such a phase of marriage especially in our typical Indian society? Why? Why? She emerged as a strong woman and continues to inspire us each day with her strength! She is truly my role model! Every woman is strong and has something great in herself to change the world..agree?
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