It has been almost a month since I have been away from BabyChakra. I had been busy with planning and packing since I had to fly back to India.;
With that phase finally being over, I thought to share this pic of my daughter. She is busy with colouring some pictures while we were busy gulping down a large dosa.😂 I missed it badly!
And while she did the colouring, something struck me. While my daughter does love everything about colours, not all toddlers love it. So, if you want your toddler to get busy with colours yet doesn't seem to be interested in them, here I give some practical tips that might instill the love of colours in your child.
Introduce all the primary colours. You may tell the name of each colour with everyday objects or with the dresses they wear. They need to know which colour is what.
Introduce either wax crayons or oil pastels. I got a complete set of hexagonal shaped oil pastels which are easy for my child's grip. If you ask what's wrong with pencil crayons, let me tell you those have lesser attraction. They are lighter which might not attract the child and may not inculcate his love for art. That's one mistake I did. Please don't do that!
Buy quality and separate set of colours. You might get excited about buying an entire set of all types of colours. But trust me, those sets compromise with quality. Buy separate sets and of decent quality. If the colours don't pop up, your child might hate the entire idea.
Participate with your child. Your child will never understand the very basics of colouring unless you literally sit down and colour with him. Sit with your child, draw some random figures and tell your child to colour one while you fill the other. He will surely imitate your actions. Besides, this will also increase your bond with child.
Buy colouring books. And with that, I don't mean to get some random black and white books. Get your child colouring book that already has an illustration beside. This will help him understand which objects contain which colours, thereby increasing his basic knowledge as well.
Finally, when you have already done the above steps, let your child colour when he wants. Or just set a fixed time everyday when he is only supposed to colour pictures. Don't disturb him when he's busy with his job. Sooner or later, he will be great with art.;
And finally here's my last post of this awesome year of 2019. Since quite long, I have been drafting this piece back in my mind but couldn't get the guts to publish it somewhere. With BabyChakra I have been able to pen down several of my experiences. Of which this one is probably the most personal one. While writing this, I literally got tears in my eyes. And I am sure while reading it, you too would get it why. Without much ado, here's the piece. Living The Good Old Days
From diapering to endless potty sessions,
From messy feeding tables to countless dishes,
From having cold meals to being experimental,
From being wanting to be romantic to being instantly mental,
From being the constant need for that tiny human,
To waking up a zillion times for hearing your breathing,
From challenging my physical and mental possibilities,
To pushing myself to cross my own thresholds,
From waking up with panda eyes to having a messy hair,
From my brains almost bursting with anxiety to finding comfort in your smiles,
I am living the good old days.
Ten years down the line,
You will need your privacy more than my presence,
You will look up for friends than my kisses,
Your heart will be broken and no toy can replace it,
You would no longer care if I leave the room suddenly,
You would no longer cry if I don't hug you,
You would no longer whine about me not holding you,
You will meet the real world where you will find more people,
Some will break your hearts in spite of you being genuine,
Ten years down the line you will outgrow my arms,
And then I would realize that these messy and funny days;
Are the good old days.
I wish I could freeze time and could see you smiling,
I wish I could lock your burstful laughings,
I wish I could keep you in my arms forever,
Because trust me, my dear daughter, there can be no one like you EVER!;
5 Things That Your Child Must Learn Before He/She Turns Three
In this hi-tech age, it can often become confusing as to what things you should teach your toddler. With so many tech-activities already in the arena, it becomes highly important to understand, for us parents, to focus on some of the most classic old-school habits/manners.;
For all the new mums who are absolutely confused as to what exactly should be your kids’ very basic habits or manners, here I am writing this extremely important post. Things that your child must know or learn before he/she turns 3.;
You may wonder what could a 2.5 yr old kid might even understand about personal hygiene. I too know it doesn’t quite make sense. But trust me, before your kid turns 3 it is important for him to understand at least the basics about personal hygiene.
With personal hygiene, your child must now learn the importance of brushing, having a bath daily, clipping nails regularly, potty training and washing hands before eating.
I know it won’t be an easy job. But once, when you start doing it every day along with explaining the importance of these habits, your kid would soon catch.;
And yes, remember, kids, are massive observers. In order to ensure that your child actually follows what you tell him, you need to do the same. Brush your teeth every day along with your child. Clip your nails exactly before or after clipping your child’s. Believe it or not, this is THE only way you can teach your child about personal wellness.
I don’t know exactly whether I am old-school or not. But I sincerely believe that nothing can surpass the goodness of good manners.
Since my daughter turned around 16 months or so, I started training her for the absolute basic manners like responding with a “Thank You” or “Sorry.”
You may say the preschool-age might be too early. But I honestly believe, instilling good manners is better done early. The sooner you start the process, the faster your child will catch it.
Like personal hygiene, basic good manners too, need your contribution. If you’re confused as to how to start it, here’s a tip.
Every time your child gives you something say “Thank You,” Or every time, you somehow hurt him/her say “Sorry.” Follow these on a regular basis and I am sure your kid will be able to learn them soon.
Okay, I know this is by far the most difficult one EVER.;
Even if your child is five or six, he/she may want you to feed him. It’s ok and normal!
But did you know it’s equally important for kids below the age group of three to learn self-feeding!
Self-feeding is not a one-day job. Once you decide to let your child do it, you better make sure his comfort level. If he’s comfortable in having food with a spoon, let him do it. If he’s comfortable with eating with his hands, just let him do it. Letting him learn within his comfort zone makes things easier on your part.
Once you’re done with that, don’t just jump into meals. Let him self-feed with snacks. Give a day’s break, then restart the process. If you suddenly push your kid to self-feed literally every day, he/she might throw a tantrum and would perceive eating as a chore and not an activity.
Once your child gets the grip, let him self-feed on a daily basis. Sometimes, this might also require you to just sit down and watch him. Do that.;
Not many parents actually take disciplining quite seriously. But like I said, I am an old-school parent and for me, discipline is literally as important as breathing.
With discipline, I don’t necessarily mean to spank your kids every time he/she throws a tantrum. Though I do believe in spanking, but I mostly follow conscious raising.
With that I mean, every time your child does something wrong, first try to understand if he did that on purpose or by mistake. If he does that mistake, explain to him politely that he should be careful the next time. Don’t start screaming just at the moment. I once did that few days back and regretted my reaction instantly.
If your child does something wrong on purpose, like throwing down a bottle of water with a big smile on his face, scold him with a stern look. Your child might try to distract you with a smile, but you need to maintain your strictness. The sooner you give in, the lesser your child will realize the significance of discipline.;
And finally, the most important part. When you’re done with the session, shower your child with love. Hug him or just kiss him. And let him every time, that no matter what you are always there to love him.
Now I know some parents here may differ with respect to starting education. But honestly, I believe once your child starts talking and understand the basics of everything, you must start teaching.
You can start his education just with alphabets, with gradually progressing to numbers. Your kid will literally won’t even look at the book the first time you start teaching. And would actually hate it. But like everything in parenting persistence is the key.
Sit with his books every day. Sooner or later he would realize this is inescapable. Mind you, this might actually take even months. Because not every child is the same. Even after multiple attempts if your child doesn’t want to look at the book, don’t scream. You need to understand that you must introduce education in a fun way. That can make your entire teaching process easier.
For teaching nursery rhymes, here’s a tip. Every time your kid gets bored, recite a nursery with full-on dramatic expressions. Dance with him. Trust me, he would learn them sooner than you could expect.
One of the biggest concerns that quite often bothers almost every new mum is about the supply of breastmilk. Especially when you’re a first-time mother, you’re more concerned about your child’s complete tummy. And if you’re one of those who do feel like “maybe my baby needs more milk”, then you must have thought about ways to increase more milk naturally.
I know that feeling. And that’s why today I have come up with a breastfeeding post that would guide all the new mums to increase breastmilk naturally.
Have Well Balanced Diet
Breastfeeding moms typically require 500 calories more than a normal person. So, make sure your diet is absolutely balanced. Opt for nutritious yet energy-packed foods. Foods like oatmeal, flaxseeds meals, smoothies, eggs, yoghurt and veggies should be an integral part of your postpartum diet.
Please avoid packaged, processed, junk or any kind of gassy foods. Gas can easily drop down your breastmilk supply. If you suffer from any kind of digestive issues, talk out with a doctor.
Honestly, this was the one that had actually saved me from skipping to a complete formula feeding. You must consume at least eight glasses of water. Have a glass of water before and after every breastfeeding session.
Nurse And Nurse
One of the major ways to increase your breastmilk naturally is to nurse often and in demand. Breastfeeding babies don’t follow any rules. Because they set them. Go along with your mini-boss’ cues and feed him when required. In fact, lactation consultants actually recommend feeding babies on demand and not to strictly follow the two-hour clock. Of course, if you’re a working mom, you may need to set things as per your schedule. But when possible, do ensure to feed absolutely on your baby’s demand.
Feed Each Breast Fully
This was one mistake that I did during my breastfeeding journey. And maybe that was the reason why I was producing lesser milk.
Every time you feed, make sure to empty the respective breast completely.
The key to increasing your breastmilk is just one basic thing- the more you feed, the more you would produce.
Every time you empty one breast, your body instantly sends signal to produce even more milk. Adding to that, when your baby is able to empty one breast completely, he is able to receive not just complete foremilk but also the golden fatty hindmilk, which is so much required for your baby’s development.
If you’re a new breastfeeding mother, you might not know mental health also affects your breastmilk.
Stay relaxed and calm for your entire breastfeeding journey. Especially for your baby’s first six months, you need to ensure that your brain doesn’t take too much load. Take ample rest, power naps and try to hit your happy and relaxed mode. I know with a baby in the house, it’s not easy. But you have to find your ways to relax in some way or the other. If not for yourself, for your child.
If you do suffer from postpartum depression or anxiety, make sure to communicate with someone about. Praying, working out and meditating can also do wonders to help yourself keep calm.