We all have little Buddhas at our homes. We often ignore what they are trying to say, because to our grown up, seemingly worldly wise minds; they are “just children”. In reality, they are our little Buddhas, the enlightened ones
Here is what you could learn from your Little Buddhas at home.
Children and their Anger Management: If and when a child is angry with someone, it doesn’t last long, not more than a few minutes. Just like Buddha said- “Holding onto anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the ones who gets burned. It’s like drinking poison and expect the other person to die. You will not be punished for your anger; you will be punished by your anger.” Your child knows that anger will only hamper his growth andlearning.
Now, when was the last time you spoke to that friend after a tiff?
Children selectively avoid naysayers: An average parent utters the forbidding word “No” at least 100 times a day. Sometimes maybe more. But a child does what he has to. He ignored you, thankfully, and discovered for himself what he wanted to know. He learnt from his own experience, because Buddha says “If we are facing in the right direction, all we have to do is keep walking. The mind is everything, what you think, you become. Believe in nothing, no matter where you read it, or who said it, no matter if I said it unless it agrees with your own reason and own common sense”
When was the last time you followed your heart?
Children are Happy, Always: A child cries for limited number of reasons, and most times has the capacity to ignore setbacks and move on with life. They play more, laugh more, make silly noises, and invent new, ingenious ways of dealing with people and things. They don’t over rationalise and over think. Just like Buddha, who said “Happiness does not depend on what you have or who you are, it solely depends on how you think. Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”
Who was the last new person you extended a warm welcome to in your life?
Children have a heightened sense of self: Children love themselves. They want the world to know how special they are, and want to be treated that way. They have a cherubic quality about themselves; their smile on that chubby face is enough to melt the hardest of hearts. Buddha says “You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
When was the last time you loved yourself?
Children Act, they don’t ideate: Children believe in action. For them, tomorrow does not exist and yesterday was just a faint memory.Buddha says -“Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment.”“However many holy words you read, however many you speak, what good will they do you if you do not act on upon them? An idea that is developed and put into action is more important than an idea that exists only as an idea.”
Parenting experts say that in parenthood; you just have to take bad along with the good. The ancient Buddhist philosophy is more encompassing -There's no bad and there's no good; there's only life. It’s hard to escape the sense that where life with kids is concerned, time isn't progressing; it's standing still. But if you take a deep breath, centre yourself, and try to be patient, to cease being in such a hurry, like your children, you can exist in only one instant, completely outside of time.
It's not easy to give up modern notions of progress and order, but it is worth the try to reduce stress and lead a better life. Your Children are pure delight. They hint at what's possible! They remind you to let go of what you want, and dwell instead in what you have.
Hug your Little Buddha a little tighter today:-)
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