Most of us, at various time points, have tried securing our homes and surroundings in an attempt to keep our children out of physical harm. However, rarely are we conscious of creating a circle of secured relationships that they can fall back on during emotionally trying times.
What is the need for a secured attachment (other than parents)?
A rise in the number of double income families and single parenting set-ups, has drawn the attention of childcare experts to the need for raising securely attached children. With a busy lifestyle, consistently catering to children’s emotions becomes very demanding on parents. More often, today’s parents seek assistance of nannies or day-care professionals (in many cases untrained house helps), permanent presence of whom cannot be guaranteed.
While parents continue to be considered as the primary attachment figures (well, in most cases), the role of grandparents or close relatives as secondary attachment figures have come more in light.
The common myths about securely attached relationships
In reality, for infants to develop trust they need to experience a sense of reliability. An adult who is constituently sensitive and attuned to the baby’s communications will always have an advantage over an adult who is physically present but fails to be consistent in giving care.
Developing securely attached relationship
Secure relationships with friends, family members, teachers and others make for a happy childhood and ensure emotional security in future too.
Look for the people on whom your child can fall back on, in your absence.
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