Should Children be Raised Gender Neutral?


While I was pregnant, the single most common question I was asked by people was: ‘You want a girl or a boy?’  But this conception didn’t bother my husband or me. We always wanted a cute healthy child, be it boy or a girl. And finally, I gave birth to a baby boy.  As parents, are we thinking of raising him in gender–neutral ways? No! Now before you people shoot me, I want you to know that I have my reasons for not agreeing with this gender-neutral thing.


It is not just about the color wheel:
Pink is for girls, Blue is for boys. We were always made to believe this notion since the very beginning. For example: I won’t mind if I see my boy wearing pink color, but I will surely panic if I see him wearing a pink dress. 


I don’t think it will produce any useful results:
I think the concept of gender neutrality is futile.  And I also feel that it is a form of dishonesty and a pure lie and is something that is just not acceptable to parents like us.


Bad effects on the child:
Gender neutrality will only confuse the child and prevent him/her from understanding themselves and their relationship with others. Putting emphasis on men and women being equal is something I have always believed in and is what we should continue to strive towards.


Equality can’t be achieved like this:
It is a very bad idea to achieve equality by raising children to be gender neutral. I would rather work hard to teach my boy to be a good man who respects women and treats them equally.


We, as parents have a very crucial role in influencing our children and it is our duty to teach them about sexual identity.  And above all this, we should never forget that a part our brain and the hormones running in our blood motivates men to be men and women to be women through natural behavior.


 In the end, I just want to say that I think that it is very wrong to say to a baby that you can decide who you want to be without them even fully understanding the difference. Just imagine the turmoil of those people who really have gender problems where they genuinely feel that they have been born into the wrong body. This is something that should be highlighted and they need help to become a person they wish to be. But, Please don’t turn it into a ‘trend’. It will only increase the gender issues.


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Comments (10)

sanjay garg

Challenging topic but You arrived at rational conclusion. Good write up. Good show

Pooja Singh

Yes my hubby too says the exact thing. Male nd female are two genders and are different from each other BUT both are important, respected, EQUAL but not SAME.

Sirisha Bhalla

Respects nd equality is most important. And it's very difficult to teach that to a child if u don't follow it urself.

Shruti Giri

This is exactly what I was looking for.

Shruti Giri

Amazing this is!!!! And actually this is exactly what I was thinking and looking explained it in a convincing manner... excellent!! I loved it to the core!!

Sonam zarin

At biological and behavioral level they do differ.They have different interests in toys,games and activities.Even at teenage they differ in their interest and activities.Their role in society also have some variation.We can raise them in a neutral way so that there is no discrimination but we cant change the nature of each gender at the same time.


I 😍 the post

Aishwarya Shukla

Both are important


I so agree

Pallavi Pandey

As we explain the difference between equality and equity, in this matter also equity is important not equality. We should provide equal chances to grow in their own unique manner.

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