We must have all heard this report in the recent past.A 7th std boy set himself on fire as his father refused to give him money to watch movie in the theatre.Today, I was just fiddling with old newspapers and came across this news.
It's was a thunder down the spine and i was taken aghast. I'm still shivering and sweating, this little boy committed a suicide for this reason. But why? Where is the mistake? Why was he so adamant? I was wondering why is our younger generation hastily taking decisions, why are they wreckless, why can't they handle a simple NO. So, who should be blamed here.
So, here comes the question. All of us have struggled in life at one point or the other. Hope everyone agrees with me. When we were in our childhood, there was no strong social media influences, not much of mobile phones, we had fun filled laughter's with our friends, our parents would work hard to fulfil our needs.
One thing I remember vividly about my childhood is my reluctance to go to school, Every day I would make some new excuse to stay away. My mom would come and spank me only then i run after the bus to reach school. Where is all this innocence gone in today's generation.
Adamancy, Tantrums , kids cry their lungs out if they are not given what they want. We all as parents make n number of efforts to make both ends meet to fulfill their needs, but they are cranky about their wants. People say it's exposure to the vast environment and opportunities, the peer pressure, the want in kids to prove they are better in status than the other. Yes, I'm sorry to say this, there is one more reason to it, PARENTS.
I have seen a few parents saying my son or daughter is like his/her father or he or she is like her/his mother, they eventually make attempts to get what they want. Is this something to be taken pride of. I would just say NO. A BIG NO. The problem is here where parents don't say no to their kids. Let them hear no right from their childhood.
When they are making tantrums
*Ignore, they may cry louder. But eventually will settle down. Being a mother i know we feel desperate and pathetic to see our kids suffer but let me tell you ,you are doing it for their good and a bright future.
*You can explain the consequences of why it is not your child's cup of tea. Relax, don't loose your patience you may have to repeat it a lot of times .
*Be consistent, make the No sound like No everytime, let the people around the house be informed they must also deny and not add fuel to the fire. Otherwise it may blaze later and spoil the kid.
*Be honest, don't give reasons or lie to them ,saying let me try next time. Instead explain them why they don't need it.
*Finally, appreciate if they are being patient, or if you see a changed in the behavior. This goes a long way, the process takes time but believe me mothers can do anything under the sun, motivation, patience, and consistence is more important.