We must have all heard this report in the recent past.A 7th std boy set himself on fire as his father refused to give him money to watch movie in the theatre.Today, I was just fiddling with old newspapers and came across this news.

It's was a thunder down the spine and i was taken aghast. I'm still shivering and sweating, this little boy committed a suicide for this reason. But why? Where is the mistake? Why was he so adamant? I was wondering why is our younger generation hastily taking decisions, why are they wreckless, why can't they handle a simple NO. So, who should be blamed here.

So, here comes the question. All of us have struggled in life at one point or the other. Hope everyone agrees with me. When we were in our childhood, there was no strong social media influences, not much of mobile phones, we had fun filled laughter's with our friends, our parents would work hard to fulfil our needs.

One thing I remember vividly about my childhood is my reluctance to go to school, Every day I would make some new excuse to stay away. My mom would come and spank me only then i run after the bus to reach school. Where is all this innocence gone in today's generation.

Adamancy, Tantrums , kids cry their lungs out if they are not given what they want. We all as parents make n number of efforts to make both ends meet to fulfill their needs, but they are cranky about their wants. People say it's exposure to the vast environment and opportunities, the peer pressure, the want in kids to prove they are better in status than the other. Yes, I'm sorry to say this, there is one more reason to it, PARENTS.

I have seen a few parents saying my son or daughter is like his/her father or he or she is like her/his mother, they eventually make attempts to get what they want. Is this something to be taken pride of. I would just say NO. A BIG NO. The problem is here where parents don't say no to their kids. Let them hear no right from their childhood.

When they are making tantrums

*Ignore, they may cry louder. But eventually will settle down. Being a mother i know we feel desperate and pathetic to see our kids suffer but let me tell you ,you are doing it for their good and a bright future.

*You can explain the consequences of why it is not your child's cup of tea. Relax, don't loose your patience you may have to repeat it a lot of times .

*Be consistent, make the No sound like No everytime, let the people around the house be informed they must also deny and not add fuel to the fire. Otherwise it may blaze later and spoil the kid.

*Be honest, don't give reasons or lie to them ,saying let me try next time. Instead explain them why they don't need it.

*Finally, appreciate if they are being patient, or if you see a changed in the behavior. This goes a long way, the process takes time but believe me mothers can do anything under the sun, motivation, patience, and consistence is more important.

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"No" is simple 2 lettered word but too difficult to learn.

We must help them learn to loose too

This is horrible, yes No means no .

And therefore i am strictly against the new age drama of never say NO to kids. I have somehow always been agitated when i have been told no ng is a negative word and it should not be used. I instead i feel they must learn early age to tske no for an answer. They must know boundaries and they must be taught to let go, to not fuss, to not cry for every little thing.

Nilofer ShaikhNilofer Shaikh@mommyingandmore
Yes , children must know to accept no

The most important thing in life !!! Yes it's learning to accept NO

I still can't say NO to anything. Wish I read this before.

Timely read! The same goes here🙄 making Adya to understand the reason for NO. But it's tough at her 1.5years.

Very important...very very....yes they should learn to hear a no much early in their life so that they not just understand the no but also realise that they won't get or get away with everything 👍👍👍👍 Revauthi rajamani ...superb post 🙏

Thank u revauthi fr dis need of hr post... Dis is really important... I use no to my kids ... My little dd throw tantrums bt I let her do dat ... Bt it's difficult when grandparents don't want to see kids cry so loud ... Bt I try dis ... So dat kids have d habit of listening NO .☺️

You've sent this at the right time. I've begun using the word No. Unfortunately when my son is up to mischief my mother in law says 'see Amma will say NO'. It's not that I want to say NO...I just want to correct him and ensure he does not harm himself and others around him. The child needs to be told why it is wrong and it is not to be associated to a person but the action. I've turned into the NO person and he manages to get away with it.
It's best the people around the child also understand the same.
Lovely post

You nailed it, Revauthi. This social media is no way good for our kids...this is one of the culprits behind every problem.

Smitha Prabhav
It happens but let's be consistent

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