(𝗧𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗯𝗮𝘀𝗲𝗱 𝗼𝗻 𝗺𝘆 𝗽𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗲𝘅𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗶𝗲𝗻𝗰𝗲 𝗵𝗼𝗽𝗲 𝗶𝘁’𝘀 𝗵𝗲𝗹𝗽𝗳𝘂𝗹 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂’𝗹𝗹)
Well there’s no particular age of when & how should a kid be independent but we can start when we(parents) ourselves feel ready for it.
Every person needs their ME-TIME, personal time with their partners as well & after kid it does becomes a bit difficult as we are busy giving our best to our kids.
Well this is when it hit me that I need to make Inaya independent...
Like not dependent on us completely as she never use to leave me even for few hours...
So... that’s how I started
* Initially I started keeping her to my mom’s place for 1-2 hours, then for a stayover where we use to pick her up early morning & now she’s 3 and loves going on vacation to her Naani’s house.
* Keep talking to your kids, encourage them to “𝙝𝙚𝙡𝙥 𝙮𝙤𝙪” in whatever you are doing for eg: can you please help Mumma in arranging the books in shelves, Can you please give Big Dadaji a glass of water as he’s coughing, Can you please pass Mumma that rubberband lying next to you & so on...
* Always 𝗹𝗲𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗱𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗱𝗲 by giving them minimal options. For eg: what will you like to wear today for your school Option1 (this dress) or Option2 (this one) & make them wear whatever they finalise. Like recently @momwearsprada said she always let her daughter(Aayat) experiment with which flavour of ice-cream she wants to try & she makes her tastes them & then orders it.
* Let them 𝗧𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 in the thing they want to do by themselves. For eg: my daughter brushes her teeth by herself but she takes little extra time for the same so I make sure we wake up a bit early at times & I allow her to brush by herself (which is approx 5-7mins) & I do appreciate her by saying “wow, my princess is growing up! She’s brushed her Teeth by herself. That’s wonderful ♥️
* 𝗔𝗽𝗽𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗶𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 in whatever they do, with your small appreciation they’ll be more encouraged to do those things by themselves & with much better efforts next time.
* Always keep a rule while playing in-house 𝗢𝗻𝗲 𝘁𝗼𝘆 𝗮𝘁 𝗮 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲. I have my Mil & Dadaji at home she loves playing with them but I have this rule when you remove a toy from the box make sure you keep that back if u want to use the next one.With this she knows she can’t keep the house messy + she’ll also learn to do her work by herself.
Well she does asks for our help while putting those toys back but yeah she always uses the words “can you please help me.....”
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