Hi! My mother in law abuses me emotionally all the time. I am at home whole day. I can't bear it. She don't even care that I am pregnant. She is angry, sad , irritated that I am pregnant. She is very possessive about my husband, kitchen, cooking, home. Whenever I cook or sit with my husband or talk and laugh sitting with him or go out with him, she is very angry and verbally abuses me, makes fun of me when my husband is not there. She behaves as if she is my husband's first wife and I am the second. Her husband expired 20 years ago. So I can understand but her emotional abuse is too much and she literally use very bad abusing words. I really can't bear it. She is alone so we can't leave her alone. I feel like hitting her on her face when she verbally abuses, makes fun of me, taunts me or calls my husband for anything when I sit with him. She is very cunning. I and my husband did many things in the beginning to make her feel wanted and we thought that she must be feeling ignored.But all efforts gone waste. My husband tried a lot to make her understand, by anger and politely. But all got waste. She wants all control over house, my husband. She makes me feel left out as if I m not the family member. When she can't control anything she becomes irritated and more aggressive, abusing and all. She tries her best to make us fight. If that don't happen she abuses me a lot. To be very true I want her to die soon. I am fed up. Don't know what to do. Please suggest what to do and how I can feel better inspite of her misdoings to me.

wat... really...n wat abtbur hubby....better u ignore her... m too suffer some tym like dis bt she torcher me emotionally .. nw i started ignoring her... u better ignore her n listen some beautiful music..

n if she do it again u better make a call n pertend that that call was by mistake .. dat he can hear wats gng on

I have done love marraige and i have seen this problem by myself. my wife suffered alot in the beginning. first we tried to make my mon special but that didnt work out. so i tooked a decision that i will take my wofe and stay else where. this struck the jackpot and from that day till date, no mishaps ever happened. this step has to be taken by ur husband and has to be firm on it. then see how things changes. ur mother in law is just now thinking that she is everything and she is the boss. just try to change the kingdom that you are staying it and believe me this changes the whole story.

As per adviced by Baby chakra expert Saloni Singh -

First it's good that you want to feel better and be in control of your emotions and life.
You'll have to understand that you will need to develop patience, resilience and inner power to take ownership and responsibility of your own Happiness.

What do I mean by that? Work on yourself, read good books, cultivate fun hobbies, and do not let your mind think about all these things so much.

Develop loving resistance to what she does so you do not get disturbed by any of her actions.

When you're happy and loving, you will notice the energy around you n house will start changing gradually and you never know with time slowly n slowly when she'll not get reaction and frustrating enenergy from you, she'll get influenced as well.

The essential part is to work upon power of your thoughts.
Understand mote than her, your thoughts about how she's ruining your life are hurting get you.

In order to change your life and be happy, you'll need will power, determination, empathy and even help of a good life coach you become emotionally n mentally strong. We all can do it. Trust! You can do it.

Pls ignore everything... I know its easy to say bt difficult to follow bt u r pregnant n u hv one beautiful life in u, pls be happy n positive for yr baby... Join sum activity class which makes u happy n smile.

start watching some gud videos on YouTube . watch the happiness index of brahmakuris .it is surely give u solution. always remember u r not alone in this world u face such problems.

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