Lets talk about one of my weirdest confessions I have ever had.
There are a lot of hormonal changes a mother goes through during pregnancy & obviously, it doesn't come back to normal, the second you deliver the baby.
There are stages of emotions a woman goes through pre-pregnancy & post-pregnancy.
So most moms are overwhelmed with anxieties & insecurities about their lil one. And as a mom, we all know the love that we feel for our lil one is irreplaceable & no one can take that place.
As a mom I wanted everything to be perfect, but when at times I failed like couldn't calm my child, I used to break down as a mother why can't I pacify my baby & Veer would calm down in his daddy's arms and I thought as a mom am I messing up things that I am not able to calm him down. I was in another pain of breast abscess but still wanted to do everything just perfect for my baby. And my insecurities started growing I started feeling my baby will be more of daddy's boy and I used to cry over that. And now when I think of that I feel really funny how mad was I. I literally had to talk to a child psychologist for my madness. I just could not rely on anyone when it came to Veer. People around me made me feel like a failure for not able to breastfeed completely because of the clogged ducts, and even some gyan's like the baby will not be attached to you if you don't breastfeed and will lose on the nutritional value of breastmilk. It started making me feel more insecure and also a failure. One thing that might even be worse than all of that is being insecure about the love that your child will have for you. After so many negative thoughts from those 4 people (char log) to a new mom who is also learning a lot with the baby.
Damnit these things made me very depressed then, & now my son is always glued to me yes I like that. He tells me to carry him I do that because in no time he would grow up & will miss it.
It is important to remember that perfection is in the eye of the beholder, not the standards that society places on us.
Banashree Palit Gala
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