The Maalish - to do or not to do
There's a lot of debate over traditional baby maalish- is it benficial? who should do it?
It's quite confusing for many new moms, with the bombardment of advice they get!
In the absence of my MIL, and my mom having a lot on her plate, we thought we would atleast try looking for a maalishwali Bai when I was nearing my first delivery date. I'm glad we hired help. One at moms, and another one when we moved to in-laws.
Both were highly experienced, came with good recommendations and were open to a discussion.
At moms, Apart from baby maalish, shower n bundling up, I too got full body massage, shower followed by the traditional tummy tying. (Couldn't do anything for myself when I had second baby as none/limited help at home for first child).
- if you can/ want to do baby massage your self, go ahead.
But personally I feel the first few months r difficult for mom as well who needs all the rest she can get.
- when hiring, make sure you see the Bai, interview her and ask her what all she would be doing for baby and you. (The one at my in-laws place wouldn't wash baby clothes).
Now based on things I've seen and heard about happening with other babies, I've put together the following list-
- do not leave the baby alone with the Bai until you are confident of what she's capable of doing or not doing.
explain to her the absolute non- no things:
-No turning baby upside down.
-No squeezing breasts if there is slight breast nodule prominence- this can have very horrible greivious consequences.
-No pulling male babies penile foreskin. Once they are a couple of months old, small amount of coconut oil can be applied to the tip with gentle movements.
-No putting water/oil/blowing into ears or nose or any other body cavity.
-Give her the oils, creams powders that you want- (bais suggestions were spot on). We also used besan-turmeric-malai.
my kids didn't react to anything.
- no powder on the face.
-No pressing middle of the head(fontanelles)
-Make sure you tell her to give a gentle massage.
-Avoid kajal in eyes.
- babies may cry initially but eventually they will enjoy the whole process. However if there is incessant crying then something is wrong, and you might consider stopping the whole routine. Listen to your heart.
I was truly blessed to have got good maalishwali bais, especially one at in-laws house, who helped me so much beyond the massage. She was a mother figure, would suggest home remedies for coughs colds n fevers, comfort baby n put him to sleep when I would have to rush to pick my daughter at the busstop and so on.
Finally listen to your mom instincts and decide what is right and wrong for your baby.
We continued for a year for elder one and 7 months for younger one- both started to cry to signal that they didn't want more- not even if I did it!
Important Tip- make sure baby is well fed( half an hour prior) and well rested when you start maalish. Otherwise there will be too much crying.
Babies get very sleepy n hungry after shower- so be prepared with boob or bottle!!! #xraymom #twomuchfun
Pic- remembered the good old days!!

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Dr Payal this is so timely and useful. I really like the way you have broken up your post into why it is imp to interview the child and do’s and dont’s ,”. Very thoughtful advise for Moms !

Bookmarked.; This is gonna be handy :)

Bookmarked it's very very useful😚
Baby is so so cuteee😍😍😗😗

Thank you for sharing your experience and tips doc..

Much needed post for new moms..

precious post payal! thanks ever so much! i was lucky to have a decent maalishwali both at my mom's place and MIL's place (when i visited for 6 weeks). in goa the so called maalishwali was so rough of ini she cried and cried the first day. from then onwards (3.5 months) i only did her maalish!!

Thnx ...its very helpful

Bookmarked. Maalishwali recommendation coming from a doc helps sort out the confusion of ifs and buts; thanks a tonne for the post and tag.

Totally agree with what u've written. Well I've always massage my baby by myself. Didnt hire any help. My mil used to do the meal preparations and rest of the things were taken care by myself since beginning. That was enough for me. My baby is also comfortable only with me for bathing, feeding and massage her.

So informative without much sugar coating from a mother's point of view to all new moms 😊

Wow..Mam really helpful.superb

superb post !! very helpful for all new moms..

Super informative one

I had good maalishwali at both the places.; I had the Bai till Aanya was a year old.; Very helpful post.

Lovely pics... useful info

So so important

Bookmarked.. this is on time.. it wud be very helful for us 1st time mothers to be..
Thanku for sharing ☺


When I came back from hospital, I was in a dilemma whether to go for a maalish or not but my mom searched and searched and we got a very nice motherly lady. We made a special oil for the baby. One of my aunts who lives in a big joint family and had seen and handled so much about pregnancies and new mother's and infants instructed her on everything. Traditionally massage is done and then baby is bathed but we first bathed the baby, made her warm and then massaged.. This reduced chances of catching cold. Her techniques were very good and once I came back, I followed her steps religiously...; Besides the baby, massage helped me a lot in many ways. If I tell here it will be very long but kudos to Dr. Payal M for sharing such useful information.

Very helpful 👍

Thank you so much doc... very helpful indeed..

This is awesome payal!! Thanx for sharing!! Pics are cho chooo cute

Thank you all!
Also without whose guidance we wouldn't have such a smooth sailing journey

Very much useful..
Thank u for sharing Dr. Payal M

Aditi Ahuja making the oil at home is an excellent idea!

Thanks....I will share how we made it

Pooja singh malasi that's great! Must have been fun!
Lot of ppl.told me to do the massage myself, but the bais were excellent! N my circumstances were different.

Shivani Saxena

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