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Thank you so much asha chaudhry for this great initiative. No doubt we all are always there for all the moms on BabyChakra. But it's always good to take help from someone who has actually been into those shoes.
I got married at age of 22, now life is far more settled that it was then. We as a couple had lost the entire first year fighting and setting expectations right from each other. Even the finances took its time to settle in.
Slightly before our 3rd marriage anniversary we were blessed with our first child. It was again a roller coaster ride as I was just 25 and my mom in law left to be with my father in law exactly in a week's time. Right from feed, naps, cries, vaccination till bad health of my baby was on my shoulders. Along with that meeting timelines for husband's breakfast, lunch etc was also to be managed. It was all hotchpotch. But it also passed well. We both learned to be parents with every passing day.
So I don't take any advice from my mother in law about upbringing of my children. If I can handle them Alone from day one and I do it 360days a year I'm really least bothered about the advice you give me for the 5 days you live with me.
I learnt everything on my own from doing maalish to all home remedies for gas and cold. Don't expect support from anyone. Your child is your responsibility.
I was never very keen on second child but still thought it's ok if it happens before my son turns five. It didn't. It happened when he turned 8. That too with lota and lota of complications. But I wasn't alone this time as my husband learnt many things from the first time.
My my kids have been going to daycare and are pretty independent. They know the basics survival skills. Don't feel guilty or shame because you pursue your profession. Kids are most adaptable its US ladies who pull ourselves back. My daughter is going to daycare since four months old. I never understood what was so compelling for my in laws to stay at there home alone. There choice.
Getting back to work is not difficult but surely needs homework and support from husband and company. I took a sabbatical at the time of first child and joined back when he turned ten months. Changed my profession from a software developer to a recruiter because that's the best possible thing to do.
Your decisions are your. Don't depend or blame others. And same way don't judge other moms too.
In case you ever feel you want to speak to me. I m here. Ping me i will give you best possible way out from the lessons learnt from my journey. Now I m 35 and blessed with three kids. A boy a girl and a dog.
Hope I can be of help to you. Lots of love to all moms on BabyChakra.