I m feeling lil upset. Its been 22 days i had c section and blessed wid angel. First few days went to cope up from my body in the hospital. My child was in Nicu for 24 hrs. Now it all started when i was going for the operation. I needed a person near me whom i cn talk and discuss things and they were my mom and husband. I was getting nervous as i never been admitted to hospital. They were preparing me to take me to the OT and i was expecting to see mom n hubby once but i got Mil to see at that time as husband send her in thinking that she shud see me as she came for the first time during whole of my pregnancy. She never called me up nor has shown any concern for me n baby. I was disappointed. I was getting affraid from the cesarian and they took me to the OT. After coming from there, good news had been delivered to the family members my mom, dad, husband, brother, mil and brother in law. I was waiting that husband shd come in first to see me and he did. I was not in a condition to say anything as i was not in shifted to room that time. I expected him to say some affectinate words and show some affection. But all i got was a smile and a handhold for a second and he went out and send mil again. She was just sitting and lay down on another bed lying in that labour room. Then came brother in law who is also like that jisne kabhi bhabhi b ni bola mujhe.
I dont knw why husband can't understand that i needed him and my mom dat time. I was quiet.
I went back to house after 3 days and mil was there. She was there wid me for 15 days for the functions like chatti n all and for her relatives that she wanted to visit us. On the 2nd day my room was full of their relatives and i was not getting time to relax and to laydown on bed and to feed baby. I was not comfortable wid her at all but i had to feed in front of her and she used to peep in. She used to sleep in our room wid husband n me coz she wanted AC . No privscy at all. She not even cooked for me on time and my mom used to come to make me bath. My mom resides 10 mins from my house. I told all this to husband then he says unse jitna ho ra h wo kr ri hain although hubby used to wash baby and my clothes and other household stuff. I was like highly disappointed.
I asked to come to my mom house after hawan and i did.
I was wid my mom during my pregnancy time even my husband used to go office from here only. Now my mom is doing all cooking, washing clothes etc bt husband ko kya lagta hai agar kabhi khana late ho jaye to wahan meri mom se problem thi yahan ni hai ! I really dont understand how to mk him understand. I look for my baby also as i have to feed her and can't do kitchen stuff , meri mom b thak jati h as She has arthritis. Still she is doing.
Husband is helpful in doing baby stuff and all but thinks maine intentionally mil ki galti nikali.
Jabki pure 3 saalo me kabhi ni pucha mil ne mujhe. She is responsible for making him superstitious and he gets more in rituals and all more then me. I am open minded. And he used to eat at my house only when i was wid mil kyunki mil unka b khana ni banati thi. Now i dont knw for bhi unki maa sahi h. Please suggest.
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