As parents, we constantly make an effort to teach our children the best. We sometimes don't compromise at their manners, their food habits, their speech, at nothing. We leave no stone unturned to ensure that everything is going smooth with them and their upbringing. Yes! We do pamper them, love them unconditionally, take care of them and do everything that we possibly can. Even when it comes to disciplining them, we take all the necessary actions.;
Today, I just want to emphasise on three important points, that I have been pondering over and makes me feel that every aspect about being a parent seems like a herculean task and can be daunting just because of the endless comparisons people draw between one another's kids. So coming back to what I intended to discuss about...
* BELIEVE - We always talk about believing our spouse, parents, friends, relatives and even acquaintances. But, how about our very own kids. We believe them, but do we really do it when situation demands. Whatever the situation is, no matter what your child confides in you believe them, even if you feel you don't want to. They need to feel safe and comfortable discussing anything and everything with you. Be it in their education or their personal chat, be it about achieving something or about standing up for themselves. Let them constantly know that you believe in them, their abilities, their talents, their decisions. When you take time to listen, understand and believe, you will see and experience the new child you have never seen. It's tough at times simply because they could wrong and sometimes our ego wouldn't acknowledge of it, but wait, breathe, relax, listen, analyse and then discuss in a positive attitude and approach.;
*Tale carrier - now this is something no one wants to talk about, but I would like to. I noticed a lot of times kids are subjected to the cheap thinking of the household members and are expected to give "information". I know, it sounds crazy, awkward and dirty, but it's true. I've seen this crazy thing happening infront of me over the years. So, in grain it into your kids that they should not carry tales. If you ever happen to be talking to someone about another person ensure your kid is not around, don't be in the deception that "my kid is watching TV so he/she is not paying attention," no they are very much listening to every word your talking. Without even realising we are building a negative energy in them and indirectly making them gossip mongers ourselves.
*Attitude - As kids grow up they build an attitude of their own, some percent of it is positive and some of it negative. Never budge and give in to their negative attitude and tantrums. Kids throw attitude when we don't teach them how it works, but it's important to teach them what's right and what's wrong. It's nice to help them build a positive attitude, but it's equally important to let them understand that just because we are their parents, we will not give in to everything and anything they throw at us. I heard a elderly person say "your kids know you much better than what you know your kids." Mark these words and remember they know that how to entice you into giving in. But when they do throw a attitude tantrum at you remember never insult or discipline them in public, it should always be a private affair.
I hope I was able to convey and put the point across. It's important to be loving parents, but also important to know and understand where and when to act and act in a way that your kid doesn't realise the action you have taken, a positive approach is most important. Help your kids build a healthy and positive attitude and approach to their tiny building lives.;