Active Parenting!
When a child is born, there is so much joy and celebrations in the air.; We parents are proud and beam with a contentment in the heat. But, as life sets its full course, parents are distracted from spending the quality time with their kids and the kids are left behind. The digital medium engulfs in the little one’s life or the nanny becomes an integral part. And often, we parents fail to observe the missing element here. We fail to understand what the child actually needs or why do WE need to have an active approach in OUR child’s life?
What is Active Approach?
* In simple words, it means getting all involved proactively in your child’s life each day, everyday!
* Active Parenting is a term coined on the basis of mid-20th-century research of social psychologists Alfred Adler and Rudolf Dreikurs.
* It involves improvising parental approach on a continuous basis and staying abreast of new developments in child psychology and teaching methods.
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How do we do it?
1.;;;;;;;Acceptance:;Never compare your child with other kids or with you. His complexion, features, developmental milestones are unique and will happen with the time. As the child grows, accept his/her learning ability, his skillset and talent. Tell them, “it’s okay to be weak in maths , but good in arts & sports”.; Accept their shortfalls, make them feel loved, appreciate ;and support them for the things they love. Mainly, read and research on improvising their skill or talent.; RAISE A CONFIDENT CHILD for it is only possible when you ACCEPT THEM THE WAY THEY ARE!
2.;;;;;;;Adaptation/Adjustment: Let us adapt or adjust without any strings attached. When we make certain decisions for our children, let us never look back and blame it on our kids or give excuses blaming them. LET US OT EXPECT THE RETURNS FROM THEM. This mindset will help us to have a harmonious relationship with our kids.;
Teach your children the hardships in life, it will be useful to them as LIFE SKILLS. It is not always necessary to give them all the luxuries and have a simple life for yourselves. Adapt and adjust to have a better life, but let it be for all of you in the family. By this mindset, the relationships will be much better. Let us raise our children right.
3.;;;;;;;Attention:;As per the quote by Anthony Witham, ‘CHILDREN BECOME SPOILED WHEN WE SUBSTITUTE PRESENTS FOR PRESENCE’. A child with parent-attention-deficit is more likely to have mental problems as compared to any other deficits. Being a mother to a toddler, I know how much attention the little one craves for as he loves to be the epicenter of my life and relishes all the attention I give him. Imagine this little soul, who never gets bored of you, and clings to you at all possible situations. So, even if you are dead tired after a hard day of work, come home with a smile in your face to your child and see how he/she can expand it for you.; All the tiredness will be gone in a jiffy.
Activities:;They can be in form of toys, books, outdoor or indoor plays, or can be a theme based activity box like @Flintobox or @FirstcryIntellikit too.; As a parent, first try to understand your child’s area of interest, read and explore the options available in market and choose wisely according to what suits your child’s likes, your budget and his/her safety. It is also vital that you as a parent spend the activity time with your child rather outsourcing it to grandparents or the nanny. A child learns better with a parent rather than others. Studies have found that the impact is much better when the child learns with his/her parent.




5.;;;;;;;Appreciate:;

Last but not the least, appreciate your child in his/her tiny achievements. When we appreciate their little effort, what they gain out of it, is TREMENDOUS CONFIDENCE, TRUST in YOU and their love for you grows in multitudes.; A ‘WELL DONE!’ or ‘VERY GOOD’ goes a long way than we imagine. So let the positive words flow out of you and let the child soar high with open wings.;
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