Baby Showers -- Pamper Session or Pomp Show?
This pregnancy has been progressing smooth for us as a couple and I have you guys around me to read rants and always keep me pacified.; However, one roadblock around this pregnancy I recently discovered is the tendency of my folks at my hubby's place to plan rituals around pregnancy that involves a round of gifts from my parents. My extended IN laws who don't seem to care a damn otherwise have been lining up, expecting specifics from my paternal home.; And all this for my baby shower, still three months away!!; It's almost a LOL moment how some people can see materialistic things even at times that don't need material pleasure.
In some families of our kinds, pregnancy rituals are still a way of pomp and display. Ideally, a baby shower is supposed to be a pamper day for mom-to-Be but who cares for me as long as the glint of gold and glitter of silk dominate the proceedings?
I highly feel we must rise above such doings and imbibe a more casual and even Western feel to baby showers. The mom-to-be must be the focus, not gifts or show off. #kolkatamoms #pregnancyrants #mom -to-Be #pregnancy
This pregnancy has been progressing smooth for us as a couple and I have you guys around me to read rants and always keep me pacified.; However, one roadblock around this pregnancy I recently discovered is the tendency of my folks at my hubby's place to plan rituals around pregnancy that involves a round of gifts from my parents. My extended IN laws who don't seem to care a damn otherwise have been lining up, expecting specifics from my paternal home.; And all this for my baby shower, still three months away!!; It's almost a LOL moment how some people can see materialistic things even at times that don't need material pleasure.
In some families of our kinds, pregnancy rituals are still a way of pomp and display. Ideally, a baby shower is supposed to be a pamper day for mom-to-Be but who cares for me as long as the glint of gold and glitter of silk dominate the proceedings?
I highly feel we must rise above such doings and imbibe a more casual and even Western feel to baby showers. The mom-to-be must be the focus, not gifts or show off. #kolkatamoms #pregnancyrants #mom -to-Be #pregnancy
I agree too... Todays rituals are meant to gain gifts from the girls Parents and simply fight over those gifts. And relatives come to eat free food and enjoy the family fights(Greatest entertainment on Earth to the Indian neighbours). It's so sad that the real essence of the Indian rituals has been lost a long ago. Rituals were meant to give blessings for the bright future of both the to-be-mom and to-be-born. And many more secrets hidden in every ritual. But no one can tell us today what is the original cause for those rituals. What I feel personally is every ritual which is not comfortable or affordable should not be performed at all.
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Yes I agree on this. Instead of thinking of what the mom to be likes, They want to have a big function. They should see that the mom to br is comfortable and happy. But they are bothered only about the rituals and keep planning ahead of the actual date. During this time they must take one day at a time. Instead of planning functions. I understand it’s important but nothing is more important than the baby..
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Baby shower means mom to be special day and she a centre of focus....if such people and their talks bother u dony invite them have ur baby shower wid ur loved ones who are happy for u....and igonore such critics.
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Same here ..my in laws also said there is no ritual of baby shower but ur parents have to do that...just for getting gifts..really under name of customs they ask dowry
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06 Apr 2019