Being a new mum to two perfect twin boys rewarded me with the best and most challenging year of my life. Double the love. Double the gummy giggles. Double the squishy cuddles and double the sloppy kisses. Double the tears and half the sleep.
I’m not going to lie and say it was easy. It was relentless and exhausting. The physical demands, combined with a double dose of sleep deprivation, were the perfect mix for one defeated, emotional and utterly exhausted mumma.
Those slow-paced, sleepy newborn days were non-existent. Demand feeding and long cuddles, where time stood still, were pleasures that were few and far between. Impossible almost. I felt like my babies and I were missing out. There was so much longing. Longing to embrace the special moments, to feel fully present without having my attention snapped away by the other baby. With one baby’s giggle, came the other baby’s cry. With one baby’s step, came the other baby’s fall. Guilt seemed to be my most frequent emotion. I was supposed to be bonding with my babies, but how could I when my attention was constantly split between the needs of two very different babies? Every child deserves the undivided attention of their mother in those early days of life.
As I enter my second year of ‘twin mumming’, I find myself breathing a little more freely. The air that was once thick and suffocating is melting away. Feelings of guilt are beginning to fade. Tears are becoming laughter. Lots and lots of laughter. The pleasures of twin life are beginning to show. My boys, who I once thought were ‘short changed’ for attention and affection, are the lucky ones. As I grab myself a ‘hot’ coffee and look across the room at my now toddlers coo-ing and gaga-ing with their best friend and life long companion, I realise they are truly blessed. I am truly blessed.
So for the new twin mums. Ride that roller coaster of emotions in your first year of motherhood with the knowledge it does get easier. As your babies personalities begin to blossom, so too will the fun, playfulness & reward. Hang in there.🤍🤍
@me.to.two
#momslove #familyandrelationships #realexperience
I’m not going to lie and say it was easy. It was relentless and exhausting. The physical demands, combined with a double dose of sleep deprivation, were the perfect mix for one defeated, emotional and utterly exhausted mumma.
Those slow-paced, sleepy newborn days were non-existent. Demand feeding and long cuddles, where time stood still, were pleasures that were few and far between. Impossible almost. I felt like my babies and I were missing out. There was so much longing. Longing to embrace the special moments, to feel fully present without having my attention snapped away by the other baby. With one baby’s giggle, came the other baby’s cry. With one baby’s step, came the other baby’s fall. Guilt seemed to be my most frequent emotion. I was supposed to be bonding with my babies, but how could I when my attention was constantly split between the needs of two very different babies? Every child deserves the undivided attention of their mother in those early days of life.
As I enter my second year of ‘twin mumming’, I find myself breathing a little more freely. The air that was once thick and suffocating is melting away. Feelings of guilt are beginning to fade. Tears are becoming laughter. Lots and lots of laughter. The pleasures of twin life are beginning to show. My boys, who I once thought were ‘short changed’ for attention and affection, are the lucky ones. As I grab myself a ‘hot’ coffee and look across the room at my now toddlers coo-ing and gaga-ing with their best friend and life long companion, I realise they are truly blessed. I am truly blessed.
So for the new twin mums. Ride that roller coaster of emotions in your first year of motherhood with the knowledge it does get easier. As your babies personalities begin to blossom, so too will the fun, playfulness & reward. Hang in there.🤍🤍
@me.to.two
#momslove #familyandrelationships #realexperience
