Being an Individual ... A tiny lil One ... 🧒

I'm a person who believes in raising my boy to be more independent and happy. I'm a slightly stubborn mom and my stubbornness extends over a few things when it comes to his habits or manners. I don't force things over him either, I tell him what's right and wrong. My intention is to make him able to choose between, rather than enforcing it on him. Sometimes letting them choose helps better is my opinion. Infact I even let him choose when I have to punish him, I give him three options, he has to choose one, sounds interesting 🤔 yes it is.;

Now if your thinking what is this post all about ?? Then this is the incident that took place, yesterday I was talking to a cousin of mine over phone during lunch. She happen to ask me what have I cooked and I said I made rasam as Aarav wanted sambar but I didn't have the required vegetables. Then our conversation shifted to something else and meanwhile Aarav was asking for something and I asked if he wanted to choose between eating rice with rasam or curd. My cousin was listening to the conversation, after I was done with Aarav, I started talking to her and her question was "why do you have to ask him for everything, you even cook food by asking him his choice!!!" This wasn't the first time she heard me say I cooked this , cause Aarav asked me for it. Or this is what he chose or said. Her question didn't startle me, because I know as parents we think "I will choose, I will decide, I will give ...." So on and so forth. There are times he just doesn't like to go out, same thing happen with me on Friday, I so wanted to meet our mom 🌟 Akanksha, but he didn't budge. He said, "Mumma I don't wanna go anywhere, I wanna be at home and play." I said so be it and he was happy about being able to spend time at home.;


So, the first thing is I don't do it on a daily basis, but yes the day my husband doesn't take lunch , I discuss and ask Aarav what he likes to eat. Usually, every now and then, I let him choose what he likes to eat. Earlier too a lot of them have questioned me about this, as to why I let Aarav make choices or decision about what he wants to eat, wear or do. My question to these people is "why shouldn't I??" Just because I was raised in a way, not to be independent, should I do the same to my child. What's the harm in raising a child to be independent anyway. What's the harm in letting him grow up as a tiny individual ready to make his choices. There are times when I don't help him in solving problems. I let him try before he is really unable to come out of it. Toddlers until the age of 5yrs, have better problem solving skills than any adult human. But what's imp is you need to hone the skills as a parent, instead of running to help all the time.;

I give him the assurance that I'm there for him always, but what's not there is my immediate help, I will help when you have tried and failed than failing to try at all. So now I've noticed he doesn't run to any of us for help, he tries and attempts unless it's actually not happening with him. Remember that kids will out grow our lap, one day they would be preparing to fly and soar high, what we need to give them then is wings to fly and not let them fly on our wings.;

I'm a mom who let's my boy, yes he is just 3yrs old, but I let him make his choices. I discipline him when needed, I'm strict when that's the call. But I don't force myself over him and neither does my husband. He too understands the need to let him be independent rather than being pushy and dependent on us.;
That's all for now, happy time until next time 🙋🙋 #bbccreatorsclub #bbcreators #mumma _aaru #forthemommy #toddlersbuddy #happymommy #momblogger #happywriter #beingindependent #mommycare