Dear Anonymous, Apologies for the late response. Your concern is understandable. You mentioned your in laws visit you which means they don't live with you so primarily that works in your favour. As suggested on the thread when your child says 'daadu does this too' you need to set better examples so your child can learn to see alternate ways of behaving through modelling. Children are impressionable and do pick up from the environment but by introducing healthier habits you can help them adopt better ways. You need to set some boundaries in terms of the kind of language spoken at home by having a conversation with your husband and explaining the repercussions on a child's mind. If he's unable to talk to his dad bring in another trusted family member who can have a chat with your father in law and help intervene.Children are like sponges and absorb everything around them. As parents it's our responsibility to inculcate healthier habits. We can't control how others behave but can learn better ways to approach and respond so we develop more functional healthier coping strategies. Your husband too was brought up by your father in law and he seems to be polite in his communication style,so essentially it's the values we inculcate. He isn't as abusive in his communication I'm sure.Try not to show your irritation about this in front of your son as he will pick on that and that will fluster you more. Try to develop a healthier communication and connection with your child.

How do u tackle when hubby is supportive but doesn't get into such things stating kid is small he will learn.. also don't want to hurt his dad..<br> where we know FIL will start all emotional drama or argue for no reason jus to prove his point.. <br> bad language usage is wat we have tried to stop and we tell to mind his words in front of kid

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I totally agree. you need to bring hubby into the loop.&nbsp; Whenever your son says dadu also does this,&nbsp; maybe you could say but papa doesn't and set better examples for him. maybe when your in-laws are here arrange for your son to be busy in extra curricular activities like outdoor sports or something ?!

<b><span style="color:#3B5998;"> @616d0591b34e550013eb9a72 </span></b>SoodThankx for tag <br> dear anon don't worry you will learn what you teach if u r not pernently staying with you in laws that it's just time being, teach your son to avoid being I&#160; same room where ur fil is using bas words nd once like a daughter i repeat l8ke a daughter speak to him or he MIL that becz of their behaviour or habit ur son is learning thing which is not good for him or adopting habit which he wouldn't I'm sure they will understand if u tactfully speak as serve what they want to win their heart , as far as it hubby is concerned I believe hubby will not talk to them thinking they might feel bad you it's best as <span style="color:#3B5998;"><b> @63729b593f31520016a69b80 </b></span> said open up but in such a way that they agree nd understand ur concern , keep it child busy with some activity do that he gets less irritated and u play with him and give more attention nd do not let him be with them for more time till they understand yr issues