Grooming Habits vs Kids ...

"Grooming the dictionary defines grooming as a act of brushing or tidying up to be presentable.";

Kids are messy and it's ok to be messy..most of you wouldn't agree with me. But yes it's ok to be messed up. How many of us remember our childhood when playing in sand and sweating was the actual ultimate enjoyment. How many of us remember painting with water colours and actually painting our skin too a lil colourful. Yes!!! being washed up and having to listen to a whole lot was how it all ended, but are the memories not blissful. We feel that our kids should always look presentable, meaning always tidied up and looking like a nerd whose ready to accept his job offer letter. Oh!!! Wow what a well behaved child, look how clean and neat he looks!! Phewww please give it a break. Yes it's very important to teach them how to tidy up, how to clean up, how to be in public but don't be constantly prying on them.;These days it's important to look good so the camera on your phone can go clichique clichique anytime.;

My boy is always dressed up well at home too, I usually don't let him linger around in dirty clothes. Not because someone is watching, I simply do it because I feel he might end up feeling cold or dirty or chances of an infection. Teach them why is it important to be well groomed and what's it's impression. Teach them the etiquettes of grooming instead of trying to bind them with it. Don't let the poor wings fall flat instead of soaring high to explore and learn. Let them be !!!

Here are few pointer that I have followed and follow to help my boy stay happy and well groomed.;
1. I cut his nails traditionally every week. If I don't he comes on his own and asks me to cut them. Simple trick I have told him long nails are dirty and can hurt him or his friends while playing and no one will like to be hurt.;

2. Aarav's teacher passed a remark couple of weeks back saying he should comb his hair as it looks bad. But the fact is Aarav's hair is very straight, so when we cut it really short it doesn't settle down unless hair is washed or oiled. He felt hurt about that remark and shared it with me. Everyday before he enters school he says "mumma comb my hair teacher will say it looks bad." Remember a remark to a child can affect in two ways. So make sure your remarks are positively impacting, specially if your a teacher choose words that build than break. May be saying "Aarav you should comb your hair and it will make you look smart" was a much better way to put it is what I felt. Mom's be careful of how you address your kids about their dressing or rather anything.;

3. What they see and observe is what they learn. I always emphasize on this point, what they see is what they learn and carry forward. If a kid observes that everyone at home is neat, tidy and clean, he will be sure to follow. One good example is Aarav watches my husband use deo and perfume everyday. He now understands that it's important to smell good and everyday morning he too wants a drop of "phus phus" (that's how he says perfume) on his clothes too...

4. Grooming doesn't mean only self, teaching our kids that it's important to keep an all-round check helps. It's important to stay organised to be efficient, quick and effective.;

5. Don't be judgmental about their choices, it's ok if they choose to laze around one day. Everyone has a lazy day.;

6. A lot of parents near Aarav's school say that they just wake the kid up, brush give breakfast, make them wear the uniform and bring them to school. While they give bath after they have taken them back home from school. For me it sounds a little strange, bizzare and unacceptable. Simply because your teaching the child it's ok to go to school or anywhere as a matter of fact without a bath. A bath in the morning helps feel refreshed and ready for the day. It forms a pattern, a routine and it helps them make it a habit for life. I might sound judgemental but yes for me its important on what practices are we giving to them. It's the first step in self grooming.;

7. Also let them explore how they would like to do it. Yes we all have our style and our way, so why not let them choose their own way and make it their own style. This helps them in building their personality which in turn makes them feel more confident about their choices.;

8 While dressing baby's and kids remember one simple tip "less is more". Don't make then feel claustrophobic or uncomfortable in attires you like but is suffocating for them..keep it simple and minimalistic.;

A quick check mommies...do share your views and opinions too... Saiyonara until next time 🙌🙌
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