Hi..this is a personal question. I am 7 months pregnant ..me and my husband have love mrg...I am at my mom's place now.. we are a happy couple ..humare me kabhi koi problem nhi Hui..hum log dedicated h for each other kabhi kuch problem nhi ayi of anyways..only thing is hum logo k yaha drinks occasionally chalti h and whenever he drinks he just forgets about me..my sister also drinks a lot and hum dono ki bilkul patati nhi h ..she is very dominating and characterless...usko smjh ni ati kab kaise behave krna h..she would come knock our door after sleeping and ask about her UGs..she is hardly 23...and I am 25...she will lean on to my husband when she drinks ..she tries to bitch about me..he never supports her..but inhone koi action bhi nhi lia..humari shadi ko bhi zada time nhi hua h..2-3 bar hi ye humare ghar aye h mjhse Milne ko..and bhot kam time k lie mil pate h hum. .usme bhi ek do bar ye issues ho Gaye...pehle bhi mere male frnds k sath vo aisa brhabe krti thi and humare cousins k sath bhi she would cross limits...what do I do? I am very disheartened ..I can't stop crying..I wanted my husband to take stand ki Meri wife k lie aisa mat bolo..ya agar vo lean kr rhi h kandhe per sar rkh rhi h to khud hat jao..i have clearly told him before about her..what do I do..it's very tough for me..I have always maintained my dignity..hmesha graceful rehke har chiz kri h ..per I lose my temper when I see these things..I lose love for him..I only expect from him ..or koi nhi h mere lie..if he also doesnt care about me I feel l hve nothing..pls give suggestions what to do..it is affecting me and my baby badly..
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Rebecca Prakash
Anon ofcourse you are not responsible for other's behavior so please dont take the blame on you. Dear why do you think leaning on shoulders is bad or manner less? It can be casual also right? And whatever said and done she is your sister , you said you don't have that great relationship with her but why? Just forget this issue , you already vented out to your husband and us,just move on. But i really urge you to have some pleasant relationship with your sister. Only when you talk and share things with her you will know her. Is it not your responsibility to guide your sister? Please do it. I have a younger sister in Canada , we both are different in everything but we guide each other. All the best to you.
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27 Dec 2019
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<span style="color:#3B5998;"><b> @5fedec01cccb6d0014097596 </b></span> I told him ..he understood but he said why didn't I stop her when this was happening..I am losing my mind over thinking this that I should have told her right then and there to stay away ..but I didn't feel guts enough to do that ..secure enough to do that .i didnt want to ocme across as a jealous insecure wife because I am not THAT.. all I want is a little respect and dignity ..she already told him that I was jealous... Why would a girl do that to her 7 months pregnant sister even when she knows that I won't like it... I just don't understand this.. I feel stupid for not intervening and sitting between them..how does one do that? It is not my responsibility to make others behave properly..I had to go to the loo and she leaned on his shoulder..how do I go and sit between them..I am losing my mind thinking it was my mistake
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27 Dec 2019
Rebecca Prakash
Put it across to him that you are not comfortable, and don't create a situation where he drinks with others.
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27 Dec 2019
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<span style="color:#3B5998;"><b> @616d062ac1b4770013bc727e </b></span> Yes I too gave him the benefit of doubt ..he belongs to a very cultured family and is very graceful at all times..this happened when some third family invited us for dinner..he said he couldn't move because he didn't know what to do..but this continued for a good 15-20 minutes and I was ashamed and helpless.i couldn't help but shout at him for being just drunk and didn't make this point an issue ...only talked to him after we came home ..he said he was new and it was my family's responsibility to control her and that he moved away after some time ..but I felt he had a chance to get away earlier .<br>
She is bachi ..very stupid and moral less.<br>
All I want is dignity and nothing else..nothing wrong can happen I know..but I wantwd him to take stand for me when she tried to bitch about me..she didn't know but I could listen to her speak and my husband was constantly looking at me and didn't utter a word to her...he said nothing was just looking at me..
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27 Dec 2019
Kavita Sahany
Hey at times even if we feel like saying can't react.. this is for your husband... May be he wanted to support you but kept quite as he dint want to create a scene..just giving the benefit of doubt.. regarding leaning towards he should have just moved away atleast.. just be lovable towards your husband and tell him pyar se ki i know you love me and i am confident of myself ... Hope you keep up my trust .. <br>
Also talk to your sister directly and say that he is your husband and she needs to maintain herself amd respect the relationship.. any elders in the family your parents should intervene ... Not just about your husband but to set her right as an individual... Her character right...as it's going to hamper her image in the society too.. not oy her image but also the entire family ki izzat...
Rebecca Prakash
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