How can you provide a healthy parenting to your child?





Respect– Develop respect towards your child when disciplining. Do not resort to shaming or blaming for their actions.





Listen– provide attention to them. Show them they are listened to and acknowledge their feelings. Teach them how to express and do not judge their feelings.





Let them choose– This helps to foster responsibilities and courage to practise independence. It will also help them to trust self.





Model– children learn from modelling. If you model a positive accepting approach they would acknowledge and cultivate such a positive perspective. Practise before you preach.





Be clear– do not leave the child guessing about what is expected of them. Provide clear and concrete rules, do not change them frequently. Be persistent with rules along with a few teaspoons of warmth and love while establishing boundaries.





Reinforce– provide praise to a child and positively reinforce their accepted behaviours. Provide them the reason for why they are rewarded that would help them establish the connection between what is expected and the reward.





Balanced punishment– if your child does something which is unacceptable. Do not delay the punishment. It has to follow the action. Do not provide harsh punishment. Provide a reason for why his behaviour was not expected. Make sure you do not make global comments such as “you are born idiot” ;“you would amount to nothing”. Stick to the current situation and let the child explain his viewpoint as well.





Be consistent– Your behaviour has to be consistent while parenting. You can provide punishment or praise at one time/to one child and fail to do it a different occasion/to the other child. Your behaviour has to be reliable while also accommodating.





Parenting does involve high investment and it has risks attached to it as well. Many times young parents are confused and fearful of the fact that they might hurt the child. Rely on your gut because no one in the world wants the best for your child more than you. Also, remember children are very resilient while growing they adapt well, so if you are practicing any parenting style which is not effective there is still time. You can develop the assertive and authoritative parenting style and work on the tensions and stress between you and your child.