I am father to a 100 day old baby boy. I read lot of articles about mothers journey. Felt should share about a father's experience. We were blessed with a baby boy after 6 years of marriage. Unfortunately twice we had to go through abortions due to medical complications. So it goes without saying this one's special. While my wife went through the medical complications and the associated medications, I also had to deal with the situation mentally. While she suffered mentally and physically I had the role to keep her calm and keep her protected from extended family and social pressures. I am not quite sure as to how well I fared, nevertheless that was my role in the whole episode. Now that we are blessed with a baby another challenge awaited us. The baby was not ready to latch on to drink milk. He kept crying. Suggestions kept pouring in from doctors, family, friends, everyone around had there on ideas. Most of them were convinced that it was the fault of my wife that the baby was not latching. Being influenced by these opinions I also felt it was my wife's fault. I also suggested different techniques as if I had prior experience in this. But slowly this started affecting our relationship. I saw her crying and cursing herself. This led to a very important realization. All babies are not same and that they don't follow a common SOP.

Whether he latches or not, whether he has to be fed with other modes, all that is important is that the baby is fed properly. It's the baby who decides how to drink, how to sleep,, when to sleep, when to cry, when to laugh. All we can do is just try different techniques and reach a point where we succeed. In all this it is so important that as a husband I stand with my wife and as a father I stand with my son in understanding them. A father's or a husband's role is to give emotional support to both of them as they enjoy the bonding. In this process the father and sons bonding get built on its on. The most important benefit in doing so is that our relationship also got stronger. Now she feels I will stand with her in any adversity. Hope I live upto the expectations.