hi, dear... all mammas have given such splendid advises. i would say, instead of boiling things over in your mind, open up to your hubby. men are very limited in knowledge about understanding what their wives want until they are openly told. do not blame while talking, as he did the best he could think when he offered to hire a maid. tell him you do not want him to miss baby's growing up years. like everyone said, try to get together on weekends. it may just be lazing around the house, but do it together. when you say you refused the maid, you still sound feeling bad that you have to do everything alone, but you could do baby's chores yourself and let maid do the cleaning works at home atleast. men need to unwire, and they like to do it by themselves, thars why hubby tunes into mobiles, tv etc. so talk it out and let him minimize it on weekends. lastly, you need to unwire yourself. take up some hobby you enjoy. do it in your free time. hope our suggestions help you out. we are all here for you dear.. hugs!!!

Don't worry dear... Men are like that we can't change them.. You get a maid... I am staying at my parents place after delivery.. My husband has not visited from past one week though we have <u>twins</u>

Hey Anon! Hugs to you dear :) I know it must be so hard to cope with all your emotions right now. But don't get frustrated. I am sure your husband also wants to spend time with the baby, but he must getting really tired due to his job commitments. Why don't you guys make a pact? Since weekdays he gets all worked up, either a Saturday or a Sunday he can spend with you both. I know it's not a proportionate way of dividing the time, but it's still better than zero right. And as others suggested, get a maid. It will make your life so much easier. You will only have to take care of the baby. You can cook if you feel like, but if you are feeling way too exhausted you can get the maid to do it for you. And when you get time, when the baby is sleeping, you can take rest or do something fun. Reading is a huge stress buster. You can also take the baby on walks with you. Baby wearing is a big help in such cases. Around 5pm in the evening, go for a stroll with your bub. If you like to write, why don't you pen down your thoughts, events of the day, things that your baby does etc. in a diary. I find writing manually very therapeutic. Try meditation when you feel like. Yoga nidra or guided meditation does wonders to the mind.&nbsp; Also I think it will be better if you explain your feelings to your husband. It's always better to talk about these things when you are going through it. If you keep it in your mind for long, it can turn to bitter resentment and that will have an effect on your relationship. Discuss it with your husband and try to find out his fears, his point of view about this. Also see if you can get some time on weekends where you could just go out for a bit on your own. I know it's easier said than done, but I am sure things will work out. They always do :)

Don't feel lonely. We all are here.&nbsp; Try to talk to your hubby about spending time with you and baby.&nbsp; Tell him how much you need him and how important it is to spend his time with the baby. Please get a maid.&nbsp; Start reading,&nbsp; listening to music.&nbsp; Take the baby out for walks.

totally understand Ur feelings I have gone through the same .I was all alone to take care of my new born from hospital visits to school ptms and everything.stay positive and happy though it feels bad sometimes.look for a maid to help u and feel relaxed .have some me time and develop Ur hobbies so that u stay away from depression.try to have short family outings on weekends with hubby and baby so that they bond or take a break from kitchen when Ur hubby is at home and all 3 can have a good time together.men are brought up n a different&#8203;way n our society they feel it's our duty ,but only we can change them.dont feel sorry for long post we all moms here are always with u .stay emotionally strong and take <u>care</u>