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I'm approximately 2 months pregnant. I work in a corporate office. Our work pressure is just fine and it's nothing i can't handle. People are fine, as you know, you can't expect everyone to be on the same page. The trouble is at home. My husband is suffering from depression and more or less always in a sad mood. He is under medication. Now, due to whatever reason it may be i'm under tremendous pressure. Be it my first baby, my husband and overall life etc. I've read a lot of articles where they say the mother should be always in a good mood. But given my current situation i'm neither in a good mood, nor calm and i don't know how to handle this entire pregnancy thing. I'm restless all the time. Can't sleep properly, it's intermittent, absolutely not in a mood to eat. Feeling sorry for myself all the time. I'm tired. Should i really be discussing all these with a gyn/ob doctor or psychiatrist? Is there any chance that i'm passing all these bad emotions to my baby? i don't want to hurt it in anyway, though i've thought about abortion?!? but not anymore. I don't want the baby to feel unwanted. What should i do? Please help!!!!
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Sumira Bhatia

hey a big hug to you! speaking about your problem is half the solution, I always feel. seeking professional help maybe the answer for both you and your husband. build a strong and positive base at home. get your friends and family to come over and spend more time with you. when we are pregnant, our hormones also tend to take over our moods, try and take up a hobby or anything that makes you feel a little at peace and happy. watch movies, go for walks, spend some time listening to calming music, whatever that you feel will help you. remind yourself that it is just a phase and shall pass. maybe both you and your husband can do something together? walks and stuff? more power to you , love 💞

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Avni Tulapurkar

Hi Anon...all lovely moms here have given positive replies ...this positivity has to be added to your life especially at this time although it's very difficult.<br> What is the reason for your husband to he in depression ...anything that is troubling in his job or something else ...i am sure he is happy that he is going to become a father soon and if he is ..keep telling him about baby ...how u feel within ...it's going to be a different world when baby comes ..lets decorate the room ..lets go for a stroll..lete dance out in joy ..this may help him and u too dear.<br> You are doing a great job ..kudos that you are handling the situation so well...take care<br> all the best And we all moms r always happy to help

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Sangeetha Karuna

Hey anonym, i see a load of braveness in your post. I just loved this part 'I work in a corporate office. Our work pressure is just fine and it's nothing i can't handle'. <br> Dear, as by god's grace, u can handle office situation, you have to make your husband come out from his depression. When he is happy, automatically by seeing other people happiness we will be just flying in positive energy. Talk with him, take a vacation. Make him understand that we have one life, so make happy memories on every part of it. &#9786;&#65039; a very big hugs to <u>u</u>

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Shilpa Kamdar

In your situation I agree it's very difficult for you to be. but to have healthy baby to be mom has to be in happy envoirement. There are alots of responsibility on you 1st to eat well and stay happy for your coming baby 2nd try to help your husband come out of depression. it's both of ur baby and you both need to be happy in this current phase. I Dnt reason of your husband&#160; depression but you have to help him out come from difficult phase of his life. so when your baby arrives he or she comes in postive place. so plz workout something for you both that's makes a happy family &#128077;&#128076;

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