I've heard a lot about how life gets tough after marriage, how things change and the compromises we have to make. For a while, this did scare me like most people, but once you have taken the plunge, there is no looking back. The sounds of ""tujhe ab pata chalega"" ""aazadi khatam"" and all such dialogues reverberating in my mind I jumped into Matrimony. It is 6 years now with 2-year-old BG twins and we do have our differences coz we come from different cultures, have lived very different lives and are opposite people!
The first thing that hit me was the utter distrust that people around me had about my skills to live in a marriage.. survived so far without any damage to my partner ;)
The other part was about being happy in a marriage. We married at 40 and that is by Indian standards 'too late' to start a life together. We however have done pretty well till now! There are compromises you make but that is a general phenomenon in life not connected to the institution of marriage... from skipping a late-night party in your teens coz Parents did not approve to keeping shut when someone at work stole your credit, are all compromises! Why single out the institution of marriage? I perceive compromise as a very strong word. Never compromise on what you want in your life partner just coz the world thinks you should be married at 25!
I often use the phrase, ""Everything in life comes with a price-tag that you should be willing to pay."" In context to marriage, it means letting go of the small things and changing the small things within us that irks the other. There is no ego in this relationship and if it exists you ARE heading for disaster! My husband Rakesh has done much more for the relationship than I have and I do try to acknowledge it in my little ways. There will always be one partner who gives a little more to the relationship and appreciating them for it does not hurt! Respect for each other & total honesty is all that spells SUCCESS.
To sum this all, marriage is great and all these jokes on spouses are designed by people who sadly understand nothing about relationships or are just trying a hand at humor!""
Priya Murudkar
#MomsOfBabyChakra #realmomstory
The first thing that hit me was the utter distrust that people around me had about my skills to live in a marriage.. survived so far without any damage to my partner ;)
The other part was about being happy in a marriage. We married at 40 and that is by Indian standards 'too late' to start a life together. We however have done pretty well till now! There are compromises you make but that is a general phenomenon in life not connected to the institution of marriage... from skipping a late-night party in your teens coz Parents did not approve to keeping shut when someone at work stole your credit, are all compromises! Why single out the institution of marriage? I perceive compromise as a very strong word. Never compromise on what you want in your life partner just coz the world thinks you should be married at 25!
I often use the phrase, ""Everything in life comes with a price-tag that you should be willing to pay."" In context to marriage, it means letting go of the small things and changing the small things within us that irks the other. There is no ego in this relationship and if it exists you ARE heading for disaster! My husband Rakesh has done much more for the relationship than I have and I do try to acknowledge it in my little ways. There will always be one partner who gives a little more to the relationship and appreciating them for it does not hurt! Respect for each other & total honesty is all that spells SUCCESS.
To sum this all, marriage is great and all these jokes on spouses are designed by people who sadly understand nothing about relationships or are just trying a hand at humor!""
Priya Murudkar
#MomsOfBabyChakra #realmomstory
SUSHMITA SHRESTHA
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10 Mar 2021