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ladies ..i know we all hav our own journey n different thorns in middle....

just want to ask you what u really do if u find urself in the marriage perfect from out...but couldn't handle the relationship with emotionally healthy part of mine...which really bursts out as big fight ...we fulfill each others need at financial level social level..there is no rush for physical need...but still due to extra. inferences of in laws n their relatives i m nt able to improve things. ..believe me i did all i could...all adjust ments ..compromise s ..tears n fights but at end of the day ...things seems remain same

worst part of the problem is i felt myself emotionally too weak..left ...n really nt able to appreciate my spirit..my not giving up attitude...hell is whn i thought of being useless ... getting separated ...left ...n dying

i hav a four n half mnth old daughter...cnt expect any help from my parent side....i was working...in school ..nw left the job...

plz guide me ...why things get worst at sometimes...
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Sheena Kalia

Dear Anon, I'm sorry to hear how tough things have been for you. I understand the journey hasn't been easy. I'm not clear on whether you are a single parent or living with your husband but I'd like to ask if there is any scope for your marriage to work out as u mentioned you've done everything and yet things have remained the same. Sometimes our situation is challenging but our thoughts are what determine how we feel and act. Negative thinking is going to lead you to always fearing the worst and staying on the edge. In order for change to happen we need to change our thoughts and that requires a conscious effort. Yes we can breakdown sometimes as we are human beings but we also need to find the strength to get back up and if it's getting difficult ,I recommend you talk to a trusted friend or relative or a counselor who can help understand and help you to break this unhealthy cycle by equipping you with better coping. You have a little daughter so it's important to seek help as this will also better your relationship with her and make your bond stronger and couples counselling will help heal your relationship with your husband. You could also Communicate your feelings to him in the process.

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Rakhi Puri

blessings and power to you girl....you are very strong as already trying to work out the situation but don't try alone....as everyone said please speak to him with love and look out the best for you all.... good luck😘

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Sumira Bhatia

You need to speak to your husband as all the other moms have suggested. Have a heart to heart conversation with him with losing your temper,  without accusations.  Tell him you need him as an emotional support!  Stand up for yourself.  Lots of love and power to you 💞

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Aradhana Sharma

relationship go thru lot of up n downs,when there is good time u can talk to your husband about your problem.feel your strength from within.  ...your strong, try to divert mind n take some time for things u love,other then thinking about differences n family member, once u open up to more things u will see your pain will be lessen ..wishes n hugs to you . dnt load yourself, pray it helps n heals,give u immense positivity that is require in crucial time.

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Shivi Dixit

I think in laws are made to create problems. go for a romantic date. to feel the love again.

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