Thank you dear sweet hearts for helping me out will surely try all ur advice

Handling two kids can really drain one out... I totally understand the situation you are in... The only way out to stop your child from being stubborn, is to not give in to her needs when she acts that way... Hitting or slapping or being angry wouldn't help at all... She needs to know that by crying or throwing tantrums she wudnt get her way out... Plz ignore her when such situations occur, leave the room and put some music on for ur self to stay calm... Once she is done with being cranky, she would soon learn that Mom wud only listen when I'm smiling... Also try to take ur elder ones help whenever possible... This would make her feel that she is needed... Usually children who have a younger sibling behave this way, since they observe his the younger ones needs are met when he cries... Ensure that u dnt attend to the younger one immediately when he cries, coz then the jealousy factor would affect the else one.. Have some fun time just the three of you... Cuddle dance and sing together... And don't stress yourself girl... Indulge in some fun activities alone too... I go for kick boxing and trust me it's the best way to stay calm, and I also get a me time in the midst of running behind two kids

Yeah jasmeet agree with you even my paediatrician had advised me that long back, n it really worked for few months but now she's growing really stubborn any behaviour of mine doesn't affect her. At times I stop talking to her until she obeys me but in vain she finds some other stuff n gets herself engaged

Thanks Archana, I know n understand it, henceforth I make her clean all the stuff she has spread, allow her to select the subject she wants to read n select all her things according to her taste etc etc.. But not satisfied, I gave her to prepare her own time table she always wants to play, play n play nothing else. If I remind of her studies or any other work pending she sleeps. She just wants to be on her own all the time....

I totally understand the feeling guilty bit, you know my doctor had given me an advice that you need not shout, don't hit, don't scream just be firm with the kids that they are not going to have it their way when they are wrong and if you feel your re loosing it zone out. Go to another room but don't show your angry frustrated side to your baby. Has worked for me most times if not always