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Nine months of pregnancy is a journey towards parenthood and lessons learnt.
(From the perspective of a Mother-was-to-be)
William Shakespeare well explains the journey of human’s life in his beautiful poem “Seven Ages” where he divides the human life into seven different stages from an infant to a stage where we gain second childhood. The entry and exit (Birth and Death) keeps on going. What we need to learn is how much to be attached to someone. Obviously when it comes to having our own baby, we are already in love and very much attached to the unborn baby. What we have to deal with is how much we are supposed to be attached so that if something goes wrong during pregnancy, we don’t break our hearts and have a standstill in our lives. We must realise that there is some reason for everything happening in the life. Every phase comes and goes. Change is the only constant thing in this universe.
Many religions too believes that there are previous birth connections and we are meant to meet again to clear off the give and takes to have our deeds account neutral and clear. For that at times, a baby (specific soul) just might have a span of 3 months or just duration of pregnancy to clear off the Karma or the connection with us. Then why we must be so worried and upset. I agree that writing or saying such harsh things is simple and it is really difficult to face it. But yes, today we being so practical and knowledgeable, we must realise that life never stops after miscarriage or bad pregnancy. We must know how to overcome such happenings in life. This is the essence of true education and the “MOVE ON” attitude that nowadays the young generation like us carry.
When we know that a new person is going to enter in our lives from our own belly and our part, we have so many preparations in and out our minds. But when the dream of having a baby is broken and shattered into pieces, the pain is undoubtedly heavy and unbearable. But again, my point is why we are being self-centred? Just imagine a baby who is not yet born but also not at all developed, losing his/her life at such stage inside the womb? What agonies that baby might be facing. That soul might just know each and every pain. Being inside the womb where there are no facilities and sheer darkness; a baby learns to survive and grow. We must be damn positive enough and learn to bear the pain as it is fleet of time and it will pass soon. There might be one brighter milestone in your life waiting for you, but because of your negligence and past hovering over your eyes, you are unable to find new awakening and opportunities in your life.
It is essential to take step forward after a failure and gear up in your life. Like we did in our school days when we failed in certain tests, we didn’t drop out from schools, we kept trying. So, the great mothers who lost their babies in the womb itself, I ask you to take a new hope and chances in life to upbring a new life into your lives.
Some things that you need to avoid:
# Never blame on your spouse for the loss
# Do not make excuses
# Don’t discuss much with daunting relatives
# Stay away from people sharing same kind of experiences of ‘x’ ‘y’ and ‘z’ person as that will make you more negative and you will start gaining sympathy indirectly.
# Don’t demand for sympathy #World is not at standstill, you still have more chances and mornings in your life to start a fresh
# Don’t sit idle, engage yourself in your lifelong desires that you wanted to fulfil
I wish lots of luck and happiness for all the great mothers, mom-to-be’s and parents.