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9 months and beyond......

Every woman's deepest desires would be to marry a prince, not the one with a crown and horse. But the one who can treat her like a princess, like a queen and lover her with all his heart. Next she would wanna be a mom, a mom to a baby, she has cradled in her womb, in her arms and in her heart forever. Every mom, surely has a tell tale story about her pregnancy, no matter the 1st or the 10th. Every pregnancy is special, is one of its kind and so is the baby born. To most of you who have read my "mommy's take over" , you will know that my marriage is indeed like a fairy tale and then my pregnancy was an unplanned, unexpected one.;

9 months into marriage, I was here with the news of the arrival of a new addition. Actually I was preparing to join Zumba, in about 3 days time there was a new batch starting and I was registered for it. In totally new city, new place and new surroundings, I felt slightly alien and slightly less comfortable. My stomach was cramping, my breasts felt sore just like in PMS, so I thought I was gonna start periods anytime. But there was something unusual about all of this, evening sickness, and that made me run for a P Test and I did. On the evening of 23rd Nov 2015, I do the test and it comes out +. I didn't know how to react, mixed reactions and was eagerly waiting for my husband to return home from work. As soon as he was back and we got some private time, I revealed the news to him. He too was surprised, infact expressionless, we weren't prepared for it. But we decided we would go for it and have the baby.;

Everyone was happy with the news, but somewhere there was some unhappiness in some, because my husband was giving me all the care and love. He cared for me throughout and looked after me like a baby, pampered me and left no stone unturned to make me feel good. I was taunted repeatedly for not leaving for my mom's house for delivery and post delivery too. There was continuous verbal abuse that my husband is doing everything and it wasn't being appreciated. But, my husband's love and care made me strong everyday. I was deaf to everything except one, mothering my baby, while I just fed and left him. I was repeatedly told he looks like when you husband was a baby and I wanna care and make him sleep with me. I said no, I wouldn't let that happen, verbal abuse only increased because I wouldn't budge. But things were portrayed differently to my husband. But I had made things straight, I had to get things going, so got into doing everything myself. Cooking, baby, bath, my mom so much wanted me to be with her, but I wanted to stay with my husband, and my decision was a stubborn one. The two things that kept me going were my husband's support and my Aarav. His heart pained to watch me juggle between chores, baby and my own health.;
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I wanted to convey to my BBC mom's and to be mom's some very important things that you should take care of when your pregnant and postpartum. Remember your emotional and mental health is more important for you both to be healthy and a speedy recovery too.;

*No matter, what circumstances and situations you are in "don't stress" . Stress is your worst enemy and causes prolonged labour and even more painful and stressful one. It's not a myth, I've been through it.;
*Don't stress after delivery it can affect lactation, luckily I didn't go through that, my baby had enough and excess too.;
*Care for yourself. Let the ones who wanna walk away, walk away. You care for yourself. Eat healthy and be happy.
* Get enough rest pre and post partum. Try and get enough sleep.;
* Ask for help. Don't be shy. If people don't wanna do it, hire for help.;
*Be stubborn, your baby is yours, you have every right reserved to decide and do things and no one knows your baby like you do.;
*Make your choices, it's you, your baby and your husband. Be verbal and make it heard or known.;
*Your craving something, relax and binge. It's ok to eat when you crave.;
* Whenever your in a situation you can't handle, just let time do it, relax and enjoy the fact that your gonna be a mom soon. You will be holding your lil miracle in your arms.;
*People will talk, they will keep doing all our lives, so just pay no attention to it. A cold shoulder and a deaf ear should be your best friends now.;

Take care... Enjoy every moment. Take pride in the fact that your a mom, a life your created and you nurtured in your body. Loads of love to each of you..💓