My baby is 8 month old. After baby my life has completely changed. I am unable to give as much time as I was giving before baby to my in-laws and to household chores and it became a routine to wake up late in the morning because my baby used to sleep late at night and he sleeps not more than one hour in a day. So I have left no energy for anything else because of which my mother-in-law used to say bad words to me. I never replied to her. But after listening to her abusive words I become so upset and get angry sometimes which ends up with a fight between me and my husband. Our bond is getting weaker day by day because of my mother-in-law. I am getting weaker both mentally and physically because of all this. I cries a lot in a secluded place. Sometimes I used to hurt myself, even I think of ending up my life. Is there any solution to get out of this situation? Please tell, I need help.
Thanks <b><span style="color:#3B5998;"> @616fd972ade2a9001326872e </span></b> @Kavita Sahany
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Hey dear ... Our time table and life changes after the baby.. don't worry you are a wonderful Mommy and your life is precious.. Don't ever hurt yourself your think of it even.. Have pateince and ignore what ever they say.. don't react.. gradually things will improve as the baby grows up.. talk to your husband some time when he is in a good mood.. plan a short vacation .. take care.
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Hi dear... Hugs to you!! We might not be in same shoes but I can understand how you might be feeling. See, it's very common that after the baby's arrival, everything changes. Since we moms are usually the focal point in the baby's life atleast for some time after birth, it's very common that all of your time will be spent with the baby. But it's not right to think about ending your life. See dear, husband and wife although upgrade to parents role, but still they should remain husband and wife. It's easier said than done, but you should try to spend some time with your husband, talk to him, tell him what you feel. He too might be feeling left out even though he might not show. Also, most of the husbands will not enter into the tiffs between mom and wife because it's hard for them to choose sides. Understand his point of view too. Talk to him, tell him your problems. Ask if a maid could be arranged for domestic help. It will make things better for you if the workload is low. Alternatively, try to set a sleep schedule for the baby too, so that he sleeps on time. It will not happen in one day, but ultimately it will happen. And please filter out negative things from your life. Mother in law will speak no matter what... Give her some baby responsibility like massaging, or feeding, or giving a bath to the baby, nappy changing, putting the baby to sleep at night etc. Tell very politely that you are not a pro like her at handling things together, so you want to learn. If you yourself will accept what she wants you to, she won't be left with any accusations. We all are there for you.. don't worry!!!
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Thank you ma'am <b><span style="color:#3B5998;"> @5fedec01cccb6d0014097596 </span></b>
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28 Jul 2019