My son is now almost 3 years old.. my husband and I live with my in-laws since since marriage in 2010. We had our usual little issues over domestic stuff but after our son was born it's like as if my in-laws have totally changed.
They behave like as if he is the biggest stress in their life.. even though he is with my parents 3 days of week and with In-laws 2 days of the week.. (My parents live in close proximity to my house)
They always put their picnics, parties and other social commitments before our son and taking care of him.. They always shirk their responsibility but when it comes to important ocassion they show all the love and attention to him as if he is the centre of their lives..
They even made an issue out of how much milk, fruits, vegetables and all he consumes so they refused to accommodate his food into the home expenses even though my husband and I were footing 70% of the same and offered to foot the entire 100% as well..
This behaviour has really upset my husband...
How do I deal with such people ???
They behave like as if he is the biggest stress in their life.. even though he is with my parents 3 days of week and with In-laws 2 days of the week.. (My parents live in close proximity to my house)
They always put their picnics, parties and other social commitments before our son and taking care of him.. They always shirk their responsibility but when it comes to important ocassion they show all the love and attention to him as if he is the centre of their lives..
They even made an issue out of how much milk, fruits, vegetables and all he consumes so they refused to accommodate his food into the home expenses even though my husband and I were footing 70% of the same and offered to foot the entire 100% as well..
This behaviour has really upset my husband...
How do I deal with such people ???
Hi Shirin...It's difficult to stay calm in such situations ...But you will have to be patient and handle it nicely<br>
Talk to ur hubby and see if he can talk to his parents ..Let him check with them as to why there is a change in their behaviour <br>
Now that u r ready to spend..It should not be an issue for them.<br>
Don't panic and don't take stress ..It will affect everyone in the family so try to sort it <u>amicably</u>
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Hi shirin. Sorry to hear this. Have a heart to heart with ur hubby and figure out a way to amicably solve this. Thankfully ur parents are also nearby so they get to spend time with ur child. Kids need grandparents in their life. And vice versa. Just try and stay calm and practical. <u>Tc</u>
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Some people change slowly or never change. Try avoiding arguments, it's not good for your peace and for your son. Some grand parents have forgotten their struggling parenting or during their time, someone else have taken the charge. That's y, they are not used to. Love can't be taught. Just ignore. And let the husband deal with their parents. Anything you talk will not be good.
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23 Oct 2017