#notjustmom
In a span of less than Fifteen days, there are two hear breaking and mind numbing incidents have happened.
My heart was still in dilemma and not agreeing to all the arguments being made by media reports that a young boy of class 11 can kill his schoolmate who was only 7 years old for a reason as petty as avoiding a PTM or an exam.
And then today’s news of a sexual assault of a 4yr old by another 4 yrs. old…. I mean what??????
What’s going on, why are kids’ behaving like this???
But then when the word “KIDs” come into the picture the direct and indirect all the responsibility lies with “PARENTS”.
The new age parenting is more like “Dhrutarashtra”, we are so blind by the so called love of our kids that we are ready to support them even if we know they are wrong. We are so hell bent in proving to be there friends that we have forgotten the core responsibilities of parenting.
Earlier we have joint families where one person or the other was attending the kids, there queries and curiosities, now we have search engines which throw results without considering age of the person searching for it. You don’t know what the kid is learning, from where and whom. We are so busy with our own problems, stress and timelines that even kids stop craving for your time, they find a new way to satisfy their eager questions.
Kids need your time more than they need those gadgets. Its a mutual and equal responsibility of both the parents. The modernization has brought a lot of good things but we need to learn the balance between how much to inculcate in our lives. We must understand when the child is taking undue advantage of our love and fear of losing them. Kids start emotionally blackmailing parents to get what they want, and this behavioral change is not only in teenagers but also kids at younger age. ;Being strict with your kids, reprimanding them at right time doesn’t make you a bad parent. To make them responsible human beings first you have to become a responsible parent. And the society need to be equally responsible to give kids a healthy environment, people stand up only when fire reaches their own homes, till then thy just stand and watch. We must know who the kids hang out with, who are his friends, what activities he gets involved in I’m not saying be a helicopter parent but be an eagle. Don’t intervene till it’s needed but always keep a sharp eye.
What will happen in both these cases is a legal matter, but we need to learn a lot of things from both these cases, what kind of environment we give kids at home? Are they seeing too much of abuse and violence at home? Do they open up and speak to us? Are we paying attention when they are speaking to us? Do they have friends? What do they do on internet? Which games they play? We need to keep a close eye on all this.
Parenting isn’t a practice, it’s a daily learning, let’s be RESPONSIBLE.
The topic is very sensitive and brainstorming must happen, do pour in your feelings, reactions lets make the world a better place for coming generation.