Parenting is a combined effort. Mother and father are both the pillars that set the roots firm and right. Even one pillar missing or being ignorant or irresponsible can cause a damage beyond repair to the future of the kids. While we emphasize much about mothers since decades and time immemorial, fathers have often been silently put off the limelight, let alone duely credited.
A father figure is as much important as we barely mention it to ourselves or in general to the world. Children who have lost a father or are from broken families will put it true, the hollowness in life without a dad.
I was not very lucky to have much love or time with my own father and for major part of my life, I have seen my mother struggle through raising us 4 siblings all alone. So i know for sure what it is to have a father, who would earn, give, love, care, share, provide and make you feel strengthened from within. A confidence no other man can create in you if this man was absent whether physically, emotionally or mentally.
So much as i would like to have memories of how a father is or should be, I came across this man i call my husband become a father and before he became a father, i saw his dad being one. My fil and husband are both a splendid-hands-on dads. Though my husband is still to get there and is no match to his own dad but i know for sure as time passes he will be a true replica of his dad when it comes to duties and love for his family and kids. In the three years of my marriage i have seen my fil losing so many battles in his life, giving up so much on his personality and quitting so many of his hobbies just to ensure my mil and his kids are met with all that he can and could give to make them feel fulfilled. He is a retired professor and as much i would like to mention is an expert and takes keen liking on grooming and talking to kids on academic as well as personality development. Being in nature and planting saplings and getting in touch with mother earth and being amidst greenery were some of his retirement dreams he still wants to live in his old-age. But due to circumstances he is restricted and bounded to tending to his family including us. but i have never seen him having a dull moment or even a second that would make you feel he is sinking. He is on anti-depressants but never have i ever known him to be sad in front of us or anyone in the family.
And much as much i would want to go ga-ga about what gem of a man he is, i see yet another father who is doting and caring and standing firm like that roof of the home that protects everyone within from everything from outside. #babyb is unwell or being crancky or being fussy or wants to play uptil 3 am in the night-he is there. Having office in the morning yet have hardly ever seen him retire to bed without ensuring babyb is asleep or os manageable or that I am in a state to handle alone. (He acknowledges my tiredness from the day's work of tending alone while he is away)
And Just as much i would want #babyb to know what a gem her dad is, I would want her dad to know he is appreciated. For motherhood is spoken out at large and there is every brand, company, blogger, app, media and what not emphasizing on how mothers are worked-up or need appreciation but what everyone misses to point out is that there is a super-man who is a super human despite not wearing his underpants over his office pants and is an achiever and a saviour though not flying and saving the planet with his bare hands alone and that he is still present everywhere and doing everything despite not wearing a visible cape at the back.
Yes! We all have a super-dad in our lives despite not making him know he is!despite not ourselves knowing yes there is! All we do is talk about what they don't do but barely take the time to think and appreciate what they do!!, Even if it meant going out and working the entire day tirelessly and yet coming home with a smile. Even if it meant taking us out for dinners and weekend trips when all he wants is to sleep and be home on sundays.
Fathers! today, participate much in parenting than we mention or speak about. Fathers! today, are more than just an earner just as mothers! today, are more than just a home-maker! Fathers are love! Fathers are more!! More than a Mother could individually score. They are such an important part of a mother just as a mother is a part of them!!
Much appreciation to all the cool daddies of the generation F (future). We don't mention it often but you are a star just as we mothers are.