Parenting - my way

Every child is different and so is parenting style of every parents. What works for me might not work for you and vice versa. Motherhood and parenting go hand in hand and both don't come with any set manual. It's all on the job we learn and keep modifying it according to situations and places and time.

Here are some Parenting tips after 5 years of my experience 😂😂😂

📖📖 Read read read as much as you can may be foe motherhood or parenting. It won't help you make your child perfect but will equip you with some ideas and ways to handle your child. You can understand their behaviour better than scolding them for doing wrong. Sometimes it's just a age or sometimes they might have learnt from somewhere so you can handle of you have read on something similar.

🎧🎧 Listen to everyone around you - your parents, your in-laws , your friends or your neighbor aunty who always have perfect tips... Their ways might not work with our generation kids but some ideas still come handy after all they have experience. We are not as patient as our parents or our grand parents were. We can't handle one and earlier it was no less than 2-3-4 or even more kids. So for sure some tricks will be useful. If nothing else atleast we will know how to deal situation more calmly and in better way.

👉 Talk to your child as much as you can. Even when they are in our tummy talk to them. When they can't speak keep sharing things with them. When they start blabbering talk in their baby language. One they will connect with you and your bond will become stronger and second they will start sharing things with you. I normally used to ask my son about his day at school. Earlier he used to just say it was ok but now he has started asking me how was your day mumma.. What all you did ?? And later he will share his day at school.

👉 Answer their questions, however silly it is but answer it. Don't say lie tell truth as per their age and how much they can understand. This build their confidence and also they start thinking creatively.; Explain them why how for things or reasons if you are saying No for anything. Read to them tell them stories to help clear their queries. The endless list of questions they have in tiny brain amazes me. Few questions my son ask are like Mumma when will I get married ? Where is my wife ??; When will my sister come ?? Why is dad your husband and not mine ??

👉 Minimise the word NO.. it's difficult but not impossible. I have learnt this hard way I used to say NO alot and I felt he started going away from me may be he thought mumma just keep scolding me and doesn't let him do what he wants. He used to go back to his dad asking again. Be there friend not enemy. Sometimes if we are not in good mood and our parents call we hide our feelings and act as if nothing is there then why we can't be patient with out kids. Get involve with them so we are cheered up and they are happy with you around them.

👉 Be available - Everything else can wait but the spent or missed not spending with our kids won't come back. I regret sometimes when my son comes and ask me to play with him I just say no or don't disturb me.

👉 Don't talk negative about anything in front of kids. They make their own assumptions and it's difficult to correct later. Once while talking to my hubby I said no that place is not nice for food last time we don't enjoy. My Son suddenly started that bad shop papa, they don't know how to cook. I said why are saying so, he replies you said food was not nice.

👉 List of basic teaching and values we all try to inculcate on our kids - respect everyone, don't be rude, speak politely, help others, value for money.... All this they will learn of you do the same. You are talking nicely to maid they will talk respectfully else they will learn your way.

Happy Parenting !!!!
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