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Manly Vs Girly
When my son cries people often says, don't cry like a girl!! I got this strange advise of not to wear Western cloths as I look so manly!!
Why are we so obsessed with this girly vs manly things??
As a parent, I think, kids need rules and structure for social behavioral norms, but; society has presented with these gender typicality which we always try to impose on our children!!
Some things change. Some should change.
💞 Crying is so girly!!!
By telling a boy not to cry, aren't we telling them not to show your emotions as it's a sign of weakness? And on top of that we relate it to a girly thing as girls are SUPPOSED to be weak by nature!!
By doing this aren't we just celebrating boy's dominant and aggressive nature?
Instead, it takes a strong heart to show your emotions and nowhere it's a sign of a weakness!!
It's ok for boys to cry!!!
💞 Gender appropriate play!!
When my son picks up a bat and a ball over a kitchen set, It has nothing to do with his gender!!;
When a girl chooses cooking over playing football,it means she likes to cook, not because she is a typical girl or just because she has to do it!!;
Let them choose according to their own likes and dislikes rather than according to their gender typicality!!
💞 Masculine and feminine
When a girl become a rule breaker, career oriented, strong head, she is said to be masculine!! Why these characters are always MANLY?
Why a guy can't be soft-spoken, soft hearted, careful, and if he is why we judge him to be more faminine??
Teaching our daughters to stand for themselves, even it's at the cost of breaking certain rules and stereotypes, is the best thing we can do to them!
Let the boys be affectionate, gentle, even if they are associated with being faminine.
Take it as a compliment!!
Instead of dealing with their biological differences, we have created crazy sets of rules to define what is appropriately male and female.
Kids should not be taught to apply gender rules to their life skills.
These gender typical rules provides very little practical purpose. As a 21st century parents; we should be careful about not letting them use the gender as a lense through which they see the world.; Because if it happens then the opportunities they get in life would be coming down to simply being a girl or a boy!!
Nobody is perfect!! Being a girl is not a perfection so being a boy.
Expecting them to behave or act in a gender typical way and relating everything to masculinity and femininity just confuses them. It's like squeezing them into non fitting cloths!!;
It's ok if they behave gender variant!!!
THINGS can remain same forever!!
RULES get broken!!
STEREOTYPES get broken!!
@asha chaudhry @Priya Sood @Priya Iyer ; @Khushboo Chouhan ; @Neha Agarwal ; @Neha Sharma ; @Sumira Bhatia @Sakshi Handa @sonam patel @Dr Shilpitha Singh @Dr Payal M @Dr.Dhanya Prajesh @Dr. Farah Adam @Rebecca Prakash @Satyam Sharma @Akshaya Naresh @Sheeba Vijesh @Sheeba Rizvi @Roopashree Siddireddy @Niveditha Rambhajan @Priyanka Maheshwari@Momzjourne @aditi manja @Kamalini Rao @Nancy Singh @Shiny Vincent @Parul soni @Yogini Kandre
#Parenting
#GenderStereotype
#BreakTheRule
Manly Vs Girly
When my son cries people often says, don't cry like a girl!! I got this strange advise of not to wear Western cloths as I look so manly!!
Why are we so obsessed with this girly vs manly things??
As a parent, I think, kids need rules and structure for social behavioral norms, but; society has presented with these gender typicality which we always try to impose on our children!!
Some things change. Some should change.
💞 Crying is so girly!!!
By telling a boy not to cry, aren't we telling them not to show your emotions as it's a sign of weakness? And on top of that we relate it to a girly thing as girls are SUPPOSED to be weak by nature!!
By doing this aren't we just celebrating boy's dominant and aggressive nature?
Instead, it takes a strong heart to show your emotions and nowhere it's a sign of a weakness!!
It's ok for boys to cry!!!
💞 Gender appropriate play!!
When my son picks up a bat and a ball over a kitchen set, It has nothing to do with his gender!!;
When a girl chooses cooking over playing football,it means she likes to cook, not because she is a typical girl or just because she has to do it!!;
Let them choose according to their own likes and dislikes rather than according to their gender typicality!!
💞 Masculine and feminine
When a girl become a rule breaker, career oriented, strong head, she is said to be masculine!! Why these characters are always MANLY?
Why a guy can't be soft-spoken, soft hearted, careful, and if he is why we judge him to be more faminine??
Teaching our daughters to stand for themselves, even it's at the cost of breaking certain rules and stereotypes, is the best thing we can do to them!
Let the boys be affectionate, gentle, even if they are associated with being faminine.
Take it as a compliment!!
Instead of dealing with their biological differences, we have created crazy sets of rules to define what is appropriately male and female.
Kids should not be taught to apply gender rules to their life skills.
These gender typical rules provides very little practical purpose. As a 21st century parents; we should be careful about not letting them use the gender as a lense through which they see the world.; Because if it happens then the opportunities they get in life would be coming down to simply being a girl or a boy!!
Nobody is perfect!! Being a girl is not a perfection so being a boy.
Expecting them to behave or act in a gender typical way and relating everything to masculinity and femininity just confuses them. It's like squeezing them into non fitting cloths!!;
It's ok if they behave gender variant!!!
THINGS can remain same forever!!
RULES get broken!!
STEREOTYPES get broken!!
@asha chaudhry @Priya Sood @Priya Iyer ; @Khushboo Chouhan ; @Neha Agarwal ; @Neha Sharma ; @Sumira Bhatia @Sakshi Handa @sonam patel @Dr Shilpitha Singh @Dr Payal M @Dr.Dhanya Prajesh @Dr. Farah Adam @Rebecca Prakash @Satyam Sharma @Akshaya Naresh @Sheeba Vijesh @Sheeba Rizvi @Roopashree Siddireddy @Niveditha Rambhajan @Priyanka Maheshwari@Momzjourne @aditi manja @Kamalini Rao @Nancy Singh @Shiny Vincent @Parul soni @Yogini Kandre
Shruti it is extremely sad. Our society has such a long long way to go before we break all these baises
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Yeah it's really sad. Even here I was hearing a bunch of boys telling my girl who was playing with a mop saying that very good sarayu you are a girl so you are cleaning. And the boys are probably only 5 to 6 years old. I was angry. But I realised it's not their fault but their parents' who have probably made such statements. So they are also repeating what they hear. But I still feel it's in our hands to correct this. Raise your kids with the importance of finding value in a job, any job no matter which gender does it. Off course there are going to be gender based roles in the society just as there are roles based in profession. But it is important to find meaning in the work and not value the person for their work based on their gender.
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Very true.
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<font color ="#3b5998"><b> @63729cb62338f60015eaef4c </b></font>; <font color ="#3b5998"><b> @6372c1453f31520016a69ec3 </b></font>; you know it breaks my heart when I hear my 10 year old niece that I am not the person who is supposed to clean the dishes...Didi will do it...I will go and earn money like father does...I mean seriously..10 yo has his opinion on this and this is what he thinks...
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06 Nov 2017