strong willed kids
Strong willed kids are bossy, too stubborn, they are the ruler...they want their opinion to be the final decision. But what makes the situation worse is that when other people around you are opinions about you and your child they make it difficult to handle our kids at times by their negativity. As if they want to lay rules to our kids. So finally the out come is you become frustrated, and there you go... Saying I'm done.
Few helpful tips to help you to tackle your strong Willed kids.

My elder one is one such a kid. He is the boss. But given choices they feel better, they choose and become comfortable and think they have taken the decision. I give two or three options for breakfast which I'm comfortable doing early in the morning and he could eat better. So now doesn't it sound good, you are ready and he is feeling comfy. Two ways.
You, as an adult, might presume you know best. So they do... Listen to them. They are trying to protect something that seems important to them. So if they are not willing to take shower for example, let them explain why, then you try to talk to them. See it from their point of view sometimes it helps.
Help them listen to you by relationship not by your punishments.. Though eventually we loose patience most of the time and reprimand them.. But it will make it worse than what it is actually. We have always in childhood wondered why we were not allowed to do certain things without any reasons.
Few things should be experienced than being explained unless it's something that would hurt them let them experience and learn .this way it's lesson for life.
Don't worry at times you were left with nothing than being rude. Let that be the final option.