Toddler Terrible Twos:

The No! Phase

Does this sound at all familiar to you?

Mom: “Put your toys away.”

Toddler: “No!”

Mom: “Please? It’s time to go now, let’s pick up these toys.”

Toddler: “No! No! No!”

And the battle of wills goes on and on

Nowadays me and my husband noticed that our two years old boy was using to say "NO, NO, NO..." to almost each and everything like to his food, bath, nap time, clothes, diapers and many more. He gets into power and struggles with me and his dad, moreover he throws temper tantrums. Then I have decided why this happening….

First, I have checked myself:
Then I noticed myself and find that I am saying “no” to him many times and he grabbed that word ,so gradually , I changed the habit and encourage his few activity like painting.( He loves that and earlier I always say no to do this, thinking of my wall get destroyed and all. ) This is the one example , there are manty things like that we do in our daily life…..
So After changing in me, I spoke to my family friends who are doctors also,about all these and we came to know the term "TERRIBLE TWO" that we have been facing since he turned two. Even in NYC reports say, that we always say our kids NO many times so they grab that word and start saying no to all.

And yes, parenting involves dealing with and helping children to separate and individuate in healthy ways. To do, this requires patience, creativity and self-control, too. We have started observing him so deeply where he starts throwing tantrums and becomes cranky. Hahaha {we are trying to hold his kamjor navas}
We have started using some strategies where we, as parents, can learn and use to defuse and avoid these situations. And it worked for us for some time.
■ We have started encouraging him to use words. Like whatever he wants he can say directly without throwing tantrums. The more he will use some words its easy for parents like us.

■ We have started giving him a sense of control by allowing him to make appropriate choices. For example, "Would you like to wear your red shirt or your blue shirt?" Etc.

■ We compliment him on the choices he makes. (like for toy, food, dresses) Nowadays kids are choosy ha….

■ We compliment his good behaviour. Praise his good behaviour.

Now whenever he starts getting irritated by anything, we start distracting him by holding, joking, doing silly things.
Finally, it's important for parents to pick their battles. It is not necessary to say "NO" to everything or to put limits on everything. Some things are important and others aren't and can be ignored.

This is how we cope with this term. Please share your experiences in the comment section how you faced or are facing the term "TERRIBLE TWO."